Thinking about the person you ARE and the person you feel like you SHOULD BE can be confusing. I think we mostly know when we are doing something that fits with our ‘core values’, but sometimes we don’t.
Have you ever wondered what your motivation is in a certain situation?
For example, you find a $50 bill on the ground. Do you immediately stuff it in your pocket? Do you look around to see who might have dropped it? Or do you pause for a moment and wonder what to do?
It can be hard to know.
In Episode 51: The Personal Inventory I suggested a few ways to learn about your values, interests, and needs.
In this third installment of the Are vs. Should Problem I introduce a way to start separating our world so we can better understand it. And it’s a pretty simple split:
Hard realities are measurable. Things you can see. Science-y.
Things like, ‘how much money?’
How many years? How long? Where? Which career?
Hard realities are things that are distinct and pretty easy to identify.
I like hamburgers better than tacos.
Hard realities are black and white.
Soft realities are everything else.
They’re touchy-feely. They’re more abstract.
What are the different types of love?
Am I a liberal republican or a conservative democrat?
Soft realities are grey.
Deciding your position or opinion on things can be pretty hard. Splitting your list into hard and soft categories can make this process a lot easier.
Link to original post and full audio and video Episodes: https://chrisburcher.com/2021/07/02/kew-episode-52-hard-and-soft-realities/