Knowledge + Experience = Wisdom helps people realize their unique importance. Using my knowledge of Ecology and Evolutionary Biology, my experience with therapy, coaching, somatic healing, and personal growth I create products to help you discover, develop, and express the elements of your identity critical to your health and your contribution to our world. My goal is to research, develop, and disseminate these materials so that every individual can reconnect with their uniqueness, realize their passion and purpose, and live the life they were born to live.
My stories and experiences about relationships, marriage, divorce, parenting, etc.
This week I chat with Kate Stark, parent and child advocate living in Sheffield, UK. She started off helping new parents learn to use baby carriers appropriately, and was so good she now coaches and teaches new parents all sorts of things.
Turns out, her work and beliefs touch upon the Are vs Should Problem in new and enlightening ways.
This was a fun, informative, and encouraging talk and you are going to enjoy it.
Below is a clip of Kate sharing her observations about something every new parent deals with: imposter syndrome.
Not really, but on Mondays I will start over at the beginning by releasing all the FLASHBACK! Episodes in order from Episode 1: Facts.
As I do this, I hope to rewatch and revisit these Episodes and figure out how to update them as we move forward with the Are vs Should How-tos.
As future KEW Episodes focus on things we can do to live calmer lives it will be fun to revisit the ideas that led up to this point.
Episode 1: Facts is all about the truth, or lack thereof. I firmly believe humans have very little capacity to know the ‘truth’, and that we must learn to be ok with our best estimates of reality. These ideas have matured to question the value of science in our future, and to point me toward other tools for understanding what it means to be alive.
I hope you enjoy these FLASHBACKS, and especially Episode 1, which was actually recorded in late 2019, so upon this re-release it is around 2.5 years old.
We spent over 30 Episodes outlining various elements within the Are vs Should Problem. Turns out this fairly universal issue has a lot going on inside. Because I let these Episodes unfold organically, I didn’t know what to expect. The same thing is happening as we transition from the ‘whats’ to the ‘how-tos’.
In my experience as an academic scientist, I came to rely on a non-traditional approach to my experimentation. I wanted to take the simplest, most sincere, and least complex approach I could to answering a problem. In part, this strategy aimed to oppose something I saw a lot of among my colleagues and peers: smoke screening. I saw a lot of academic research that was overly and unnecessarily complex. I always suspected that this strategy aimed to confuse the reader and distract from what was typically pretty weak science.
I try my best to aim for the least number of parts, the easiest approach, and tend to favor the explanation that has the fewest parts. I find this attractive and neat. But most importantly, I find these types of approaches and explanations to be the most useful.
So in this Episode I lay out the approach I will take in the following Episodes 81-??? where I explain what I have learned with respect to ‘living a better life’ or ‘reducing the struggle’ or ‘living more in the are and less in the should’. I hope you find it helpful in deciding if this is something you’re interested in or something you think might agree with your preferred way or learning and understanding.
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Unfortunately, I was unable to load my video so the YouTube video is just an audio file, but can be found here: https://youtu.be/4HTy-q8PMT0
Upcoming Episodes will address The Algorithm and Meditation.
If you follow Knowledge + Experience = Wisdom you will be familiar with IFS. If you are not familiar, Internal Family Systems (IFS) is a psychotherapy model used to heal past trauma.
In IFS, we view ourselves as being comprised of ‘parts’ that resemble siblings in a big family. These parts have taken on roles over time that we continue to implement as they all serve some purpose in our internal ‘family’.
The process of working with IFS is to help these parts figure out why they do what they do and offer them new roles that might better serve the family. Through this process, parts become aware of each other, learn to interact, and learn to trust a central figure referred to as Self with a capital S.
Stephanie Mitchell is an Australian dynamo who specializes in using IFS to heal people with significant psychological issues including schizophrenia. She is well known and runs a practice with many supporting staff.
She lives and breathes IFS because she strongly believes in the utility of the model. She has seen it work in extreme cases and, especially, with herself.
Anyone interested in personal growth, therapy, or coaching will enjoy this interview. You get insight about how IFS works both in therapy and in a day-to-day practice. You’ll learn about some typical parts and how they interact and heal. And you’ll get the gospel straight from the source.
I am proud to present this interview and hope you enjoy it as much as I do.
Links to information about Stephanie Mitchell; the first is her webpage:
Occam’s Razor: the model with the fewest assumptions is best
Life should be simple (not easy), parsimonious (nothing wasted), and reductive (few parts).
Makes sense to me.
And that is the skeleton of the KEW model of ‘living a better life’, or
Suffering less, or
Finding less dis-satisfaction, or
Being more peaceful, or
Experiencing more calm.
Call it what you want. We are preparing for a journey whose ultimate destination or goal is to live more easily. To experience less turmoil as life unfolds. To realize joy more often. And to more easily let go of the stress and turmoil that often comes with this thing called life.
I’ll expand a bit on all of that in this Episode, before launching into more explicit action steps or how-tos in Episode 81.
Unfortunately, there is no video for Episode 80 but I will still upload the audio to both podcast and YouTube.
Full Episodes this Friday, right here at Knowledge + Experience = Wisdom
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It is my pleasure to introduce you to Stephanie Mitchell this week.
Stephanie is a psychotherapist, trainer, and consultant residing in beautiful Adelaide, Australia. She primarily works with complex trauma and psychosis and is very much focused on using the Internal Family Systems (IFS) model to help people live better lives.
I met Stephanie on a facebook IFS group and she graciously agreed to talk with us about IFS. You can get a glimpse of this in the short video below.
If you have listened to any of my last 30 or so Episodes, you’ll know that I am working with an IFS coach and have found success using this model after being unable to change using traditional talk therapies.
If you have any interest in IFS, are looking for a potential coach or healer to help you on your journey, or are just curious about Stephanie’s interesting life please stay tuned. The full audio and video from our talk is coming this Thursday right here on KEW.
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