FLASHBACK! KEW Episode 20: Enough

How much is enough?


How much money? How much power? How much recognition? How many followers? How many likes?

Similar to the ‘Growth Fallacy‘ I discuss in Episode 39, I think it’s a mistake to assume more is going to solve whatever problem we think it’s going to solve.

In fact, being obsessed with more, or enough, or growing, or being on that path is a guaranteed ticket to get stuck on the hamster wheel, and remain a Rat Racer. And I don’t think that’s what we really want.

We just think we do.

We think more money, followers, likes, muscles, whatever, is going to solve our problem.

Those solutions don’t work. Maybe temporarily they do, but more is not the solution.

The solution is to redefine ‘Enough’.

Sometimes enough is a quantity. $70k a year salary is ‘enough’ to meet a family’s needs.

Other times it’s about redefining why you want, or think you need, these things in the first place. For example, enough followers is an illusion. Instead of obsessing over social media attention, maybe dig deep and think about why you think you need that in the first place. For me, it’s a false belief that other people define my value. They don’t. I’m working on that.

I think most of our ‘enough’ are qualitative, and really about redefining what we think we need, and figuring out how to change our Old Beliefs.

I hope you enjoy this FLASHBACK! Here’s a preview: https://fb.watch/3wWOXp3N38/

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KEW Episode 40: Get Out of Your Head!

Figures like the one below have been shared many times from many sources. The point is that we, as humans, are comprised of three key components; Head, Heart, and Gut that interact to make up a whole person. When these parts are out of synch, we experience cognitive dissonance, the state of having inconsistent thoughts, beliefs, or attitudes, especially as relating to behavioral decisions and attitude change. A simpler explanation is just to say we are ‘out of whack’.

Though I understand this concept intellectually, it is only recently that I have learned to connect with my Heart and Gut. I have turned a corner in my therapy and coaching. I am learning to place my awareness on these other parts, to shift it from my mind, and to ‘check in’ with my intuitive and emotional elements. I naively believed that intellectual understanding would result in connectivity and I couldn’t have been more wrong.

Though I can’t yet coach you or explain how to do this, I can say that it is fairly easy to shift your awareness (for example, during meditation) to your Heart and Gut, and that simply doing this will prepare you for action when the situation arises. A big chunk of the battle is simply knowing how to be aware of your parts.

We spend so much time in our heads we create, and live in, a state of cognitive dissonance. I would personally like to change that and maybe this episode will help you get on that path.

Full audio podcast here: https://pdcn.co/e/https://chtbl.com/track/CGDA9D/www.buzzsprout.com/530563/7660567-kew-episode-40-get-out-of-your-head.mp3?blob_id=33873082&download=true

or via your favorite podcast app (I’ve switched from Stitcher to Spotify as of late)

Full YouTube video here: https://youtu.be/BY_PzOlRfU0

Preview KEW Episode 40: Get Out of Your Head!

I realized recently that I have spent nearly ten years in therapy. And it was pointed out to me by upcoming interviewee, Mandy Napier (The Mindset Alchemist) that this is too long to have not made much progress. In my defense, I have made A LOT of progress intellectually. But intellectual understanding hasn’t facilitated major changes in my beliefs, habits, and feelings. Mandy, as well as Neil Bjorklund, pointed out to me that my brain is only part of the puzzle and I need to connect with the ‘rest of me’.

The ‘rest of me’, as I had learned years ago, also includes my heart and my gut – my intuitive and emotional ‘feelings’ toward my situation, decision, or approaches. I am now learning HOW to connect with those parts – because it is much, much different than connecting with my mind. I will argue this week that MOST of us don’t remember how to connect with our ‘whole selves’, rather, we spend most of our time in our heads.

Here’s a preview: https://www.facebook.com/watch/?v=454529232584503

full Episode this Friday.

FLASHBACK! Episode 19: Addiction

I’ve been addicted to nicotine since I was around 15 years old. Ten years of cigarettes, traded those for dip tobacco for another decade, and have chewed nicotine gum on and off since it has been available without prescription. I say I have a nicotine addiction, but it’s really about the habit more than anything. I’m addicted to the part of my identity that says I’m addicted to nicotine.

In this episode I bring in many other examples. Some familiar like tobacco or alcohol, and others you might not think of as addictions. More than anything, I think we’re addicted to our beliefs and habits. But we can break those things! We can rebuild, and recast ourselves in new identities. Which is a big part of what KEW is about.

If you’re addicted to something, or if you think you aren’t, I hope you gain some insight from a listen or a view. Thanks for sharing!

Video preview: https://www.facebook.com/watch/?v=404313957527849

Link to original post: https://chrisburcher.com/2020/09/04/kew-episode-19-addiction/

KEW Curiosity series interview: Paul Gadola

One of my greatest character flaws is being resistant to people. When I meet new people I often assume they won’t like the ‘real me’ and this often prevents me from developing deep relationships. Sometimes this is protective, because some people might ridicule you or react negatively to who you really are. But the worst result from this type of approach is not giving people a chance. I’m not sure I did that with Paul, but when we first met I didn’t see the potential friendship because I was in my protective bubble – and that’s on me.

Fortunately for me, Paul reached out to me and we have developed a friendship which has grown easily and effortlessly. And I owe him a debt of gratitude for initiating that and sort of pushing through any walls I might have had up. This is the first lesson Paul taught me. I guess the lesson there is to be open to the world rather than closed off. To believe that the world wants and needs your unique vision and that it’s your responsibility to share it.

Paul Gadola owns a CrossFit gym (www.ironmountain.fitness) and his wife owns a healthy meals business (www.sunmealprep.com) so they literally embody the mind/body/spirit mantra, living it every day. Paul’s messages are so well informed, well thought out, and COMPLETE that it’s hard not to learn something from his videos and messages. His instagram offers so much to the spiritual thinker you will have plenty to chew on for weeks. And it’s hard to argue with how he has compiled so many viewpoints, so many belief systems, and so much diversity in his messages. He seems to have filtered out all the junk and come up with a holistic, all-inclusive organization of a way to approach enlightenment for our species.

Though I had a few issues during recording, we were able to capture a lot of Paul’s wisdom in this Episode and there is a lot here to help us all grow and understand ourselves better. I strongly urge you to check out his instagram series or his facebook page to go deeper into what he is offering. And maybe send him some encouragement to package all of this into a book or something;)

Full Podcast audio here: https://pdcn.co/e/https://chtbl.com/track/CGDA9D/www.buzzsprout.com/530563/7514887-kew-curiosity-one-paul-gadola-interview.mp3?blob_id=33018568&download=true or via your favorite podcast listening app.

Full Video here: https://youtu.be/WkEuFewSmM4

Preview: KEW Curiosity Series: Paul Gadola

This week I’ll release the first in a series of interviews about Curiosity starting with my buddy and spiritual confidante, Paul Gadola. Paul lives in my hometown, and though we didn’t really know each other well for several years, we have bonded over our similar paths. Paul has a wealth of Knowledge (and Experience and Wisdom) about all things spiritual and is currently writing a book to share his unique vision. Fortunately he also shares his messages on instagram and facebook and following him will inspire you. There is much to learn from his inclusive approach to spirituality and I’m honored he was open to sharing with us in this series debut.

If you have listened to any of my solo episodes, you already know how Paul has influenced my thinking. One of my favorites is, ‘We all think we’re right’. Just hearing Paul verbalize this statement has softened the way I look at other people in my life – which has been especially helpful during these divisive times. Paul just has that way about him. He is the most peaceful, kind, and ‘chilled out’ dude I’ve met in my adult life and we all can learn a lot from him. Here’s a preview of what’s coming this Friday.

Episode preview here: https://www.facebook.com/watch/?v=572120573746640

Paul owns Iron Mountain Crossfit gym and his wife, Shelley, runs Sunmeal Prep offering healthy prepared meals. Together they truly embody the mind/body/spirit holistic approach to living a good life – something for us all to aspire to.

FLASHBACK! KEW Episode 18: Dream Bigger

I recorded this episode based on a story someone once related to me about her post high school goals being ‘restricted’ by her family and cultural traditions. In other words, people ‘like her’ didn’t do certain things, or more accurately, could only do certain things. There were only so many career choices, or partner choices, or even the kinds of cars she could drive.

Like many things I simultaneously appreciate and despise this notion. On the one hand, traditions are important and how else are they conserved if they are not taught? As a lover of bluegrass music I get the tradition thing. It’s important to know where you came from and who invented the three-finger banjo roll *(Earl Scruggs). On the other hand, the next generation should absolutely not be carbon copies of us and things must necessarily change. If there’s anything we know about life is that change is a certainty (see Charles Darwin).

So having that knowledge, and experience in both of those worlds, I have a lot to say about dreams. I hope you enjoy.

Short 30 second preview here: https://www.facebook.com/watch/?v=1734618976738493

Full Episode post here: https://chrisburcher.com/2020/08/26/preview-episode-18-dream-bigger/

KEW Episode 39: The Growth Fallacy

With respect to economics, people often say that you have to grow to stay in business. I heard this a lot when I tried to run my business at a static level of production (i.e., no growth). I found that we actually HAD MORE MONEY left over when we controlled expenses and held production at the level of demand. I discovered that we spent so much money on growth that we were more profitable when we didn’t have those line items. Imagine that!

So it bugs me when people adhere to that mantra: Grow or Die! It not only doesn’t make sense, it can be detrimental.

Take human population size. The more people, the more resources are consumed, and the more damage is done to our home. Now, we could certainly do this differently, but there is a concept called Carrying Capacity that says any population in a given area can only be as large as the resources available to support it.

So growth can be bad.

Now, I’m only talking about growth that consumes resources here. Personal growth. Learning. Musical ability. There are many types of growth that are healthy and, I believe, essential to humanity. But when considering consumptive growth, we absolutely have to start accounting for true resource use – after all, accounting is a critical part of business, right? And I argue that we have done some pretty poor accounting when it comes to big business and the environment.

Podcast download: https://pdcn.co/e/https://chtbl.com/track/CGDA9D/www.buzzsprout.com/530563/7398811-kew-episode-39-the-growth-fallacy.mp3?blob_id=32331385&download=true

Or, I’m on most of the podcast servers like Stitcher or Apple Podcasts.

YouTube video link: https://youtu.be/n2rGWiVQx3c

Preview KEW Episode 39: The Growth Fallacy

For whatever reason, it is popular to believe that growth is necessary for capitalistic businesses to succeed. I don’t know how pervasive this belief is, but I have heard it multiple times.

I’ve never understood this philosophy. As a business owner this drove me crazy because I observed, time and again, that the expenses associated with growth never realized a return. In other words, growth was not only unnecessary, it was detrimental!

In ecology there is a concept of carrying capacity, which states (briefly) that population size (the number of individuals of a given species living in an area) is limited by the availability of resources. This means population size will be constrained by local resource availability, and can only grow as big (numerous) as those resources allow.

Now, some growth is good; personal growth, musical ability, intellect, and other accumulations that don’t take up any space. Of course, money doesn’t take up space, but economic growth does have multiple other consumptive uses that drain resources.

In the end, I have seen little evidence that growth, especially in the economic sense, but also in the population size sense, is necessary for success. In fact, I see much evidence that it is harmful.

Preview video here: https://www.facebook.com/watch/?v=771622536777502

Full Episode Friday!

FLASHBACK! KEW Episode 17: S.U.C.K. in the U.S.A.

In this Episode I discussed what I think is ‘wrong’ with living in the US as of late 2020. This isn’t a rant against political parties or an attempt to argue for a particular political position. Rather, I question some of the basic beliefs we have about how our ‘system’ works. Why do we make the decisions we make? Why do we accept that ‘government is inefficient’ or that ‘capitalism is the best economic system’?

I guess I just tire of the ‘you can’t turn a battleship’ argument that says we can’t change anything because it’s ‘too hard’ or ‘unfair’ or that ‘if we switch from coal to solar all the miners will lose their jobs’. I’m tired of the cop outs and would much prefer pushing our collective comfort zones toward change rather than believing that the ‘same old, same old’ is going to produce different results.

Link to preview here: https://www.facebook.com/watch/?v=718755388826234

(hopefully facebook won’t prevent me from posting this, given the title 🙂 )

Link to full Episode post here: https://chrisburcher.com/2020/08/14/kew-episode-17-s-u-c-k-in-the-u-s-a/