FLASHBACK! Episode 24: Religion

I didn’t grow up with any religion. That may seem weird to you, or it may be completely normal. In the grand suite of people in the U.S.A., I think it’s less common NOT to grow up religious. I don’t know about other non-religious kids, but I always had a keen interest in the spiritual world. My natural curiosity led me to learn about everything from ghosts to Buddha. I tend toward ancient cultural belief systems mostly because I think they’re cool. I guess I just like the idea of biological magic and ancestral spirit guides.

Somehow I think NOT being told what to believe facilitates an openness for our curiosity to explore freely. By not growing up with a specific belief system I was able to consider any of them that sparked my interest. What I saw, as many people will say, was the similarities and trends common to different ways of thinking. It isn’t really about the details, I don’t think. What’s important to recognize is that humans long for an explanation, and whatever explanation makes the most sense to us individually serves a purpose.

Whatever your beliefs, I hope my thoughts about the umbrella idea of religion stimulate your own curiosity. I’ve spent a lot of time learning about multiple religions and belief systems, and think I offer a broad and unique viewpoint on the big questions in life. Whether we think we have it all figured out or not, there’s always room to ponder the greatest unknowns.

Link to episode preview here: https://www.facebook.com/watch/?v=445506546508041

Original post with episode links here: https://chrisburcher.com/2020/10/09/kew-episode-24-religion/

FLASHBACK! KEW Episode 23: Who’s Right?

Would you rather be RIGHT, or HAPPY? Think about it. How many times have you faced this situation: You disagree with someone. A spouse, a friend, or coworker. And instead of getting curious and trying to understand each other, you end up in a posturing match of who will more strongly defend your position. How often does that end well?

Yet we all do it, and continue to do it. Somehow DEFENDING our positions is more important to us than UNDERSTANDING each other.

I don’t know about you, but when I get defensive I know something is up. Getting defense usually means I’m afraid of something. Sometimes I’m just afraid I’m wrong, and it’s too late to reveal that, so I double down. Other times I’m afraid my beliefs are abnormal, so I try and change my mind or concede to my ‘opponent’. More often than not, I think we get defensive because we really don’t know what we’re talking about – at least we don’t know well enough to defend it.

It’s like they say about teaching. To teach someone something you REALLY have to understand the topic. Same thing with defending your position on an issue when having a disagreement. You probably haven’t really thought enough about whatever it is to defend it properly. And then we panic. And panic often comes out as conflict.

Wouldn’t it be cool if we could normalize understanding rather than defending?

Preview video link: https://www.facebook.com/watch/?v=178817760441714

Original post with audio and video links here: https://chrisburcher.com/2020/10/02/kew-episode-23-whos-right/

KEW Preview Episode 23: Who’s Right?

My therapist posed the question to me once, “Would you rather be right, or happy?” and I have thought about it ever since. At the end of the day, I’d rather be happy.

Our desire to be right, to win arguments, or impose our beliefs and values on to others is contributing to the ‘us vs. them’ mentality so prevalent in today’s society – especially in the U.S.A. where I live.

This week I discuss how to deal with this situation and ask you for your input.

Preview video here: https://www.facebook.com/watch/?v=1519335964936248

Full episode this Friday