Scope matters Have you ever realized something about yourself that you think is normal but isn’t? Some people are naturally good at math, others might excel at sports games, and many are great at conversation. Sometimes, we call this our superpower Me? I see the big picture — the 30,000-foot…
The Evolution Paradox
The source of our problems Cognitive dissonance This term, coined by psychologist Leon Festinger, describes the human need for consistency. When we experience disagreement between thoughts and actions, we are uncomfortable. Humans like balance. I experience cognitive dissonance when my beliefs are challenged. For example, when someone is violently disruptive…
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What we get wrong about self-love
And how to facilitate healing You’ve probably heard it 1,000 times. You have to love yourself first. Low self-worth is holding you back. It would help if on your self-esteem. When I shared my struggles and concerns with therapists, counselors, and coaches I would hear some version of these statements….
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Why Mindfulness and Meditation Are Mandatory
The foundation of being human. Meditation is like licorice. Or even green eggs and ham. Those who like it, really like it. Those who don’t, really don’t. Many don’t really know. It’s time we changed that. In the 70s, meditation journeyed from the East to the West. Before that, meditation…
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New Project Coming Soon. Mindfulness and Meditation.
I’m just reaching out to let you know about my new project. I will start a website and blog aimed at helping people understand how meditation and mindfulness can change their lives. Over the past 15 years, I have used my scientific brain to find the source of what helps humans live…
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The Hyper-Vigilant Perfectionist Mind-Reading Empath
Does this sound like you? This phrase keeps running around in my head: Hyper-Vigilant Perfectionist Mind-Reading Empath It isn’t complete, but it broadly sums up fifteen years of therapy. It describes me, my childhood, and my healing struggle. And I wonder if it describes others as well. That’s the point…
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The Agony of the Gifted Child
A late identified neurodivergent perspective. Have you seen this Far Side comic by Gary Larson? It’s near-ubiquitous in my memory. Just the other day I thought of it again. But this time I remembered it through the awareness of my neurodivergence. Like many of us, I was placed into the US…
Hitting the Pause Button to Deliver Our Boat
I want to let y’all know what is going on in my life. There will be a pause in my articles, podcast, and videos until at least August. For the next two weeks or so I will be delivering our boat from the BVI to the USA. Wait, WTaF? For…
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We Can Reach Fitness by Returning to the Optimum Condition
Have you ever sat down and thought about your values? Values are important, motivating, and provide guidance. I’ve done a lot of values work in therapy and find it challenging. I value many things, but prioritizing the top five to ten is difficult and dynamic. One thing I have learned during…
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On Being a Good Steward of Earth
Socializing the gains You don’t have to look far to find something to complain about. Climate change Inequality Suicidal ideation Malnutrition Loneliness The world is full of problems. Now, I’m no doomer. My intent is not to illuminate human suffering. Rather, I accept the Buddhist notion that there will be suffering….