Would you rather be right, or be happy? It’s a good question. It also subtly implies that if you’re right, you aren’t necessarily happy. I know when I push to ‘win’ an argument, or to ‘be right’, I usually feel a little guilty. Certainly not victorious or celebratory. Being right…

Time is our most valuable resource and is inherently limited by our lifespan. If we’re lucky, we get maybe 70 or 80 years worth of time. And the tragedy is . . . for most of that span we think time is infinite. Personally, I didn’t appreciate time until I…

You know how there are things you KNOW to be true, but are SO HARD to actually do that you feel SHAME about NOT doing them? Like dieting, exercise, meditation. . . . TIME is one of those things for me because of the truism: “If something is a priority,…

How can we achieve a more equitable society if some people play by the rules and others ‘bend’ the rules to suit them? Loopholes and shortcuts have become the American Way of high achievement, but is it fair? Should we all exploit these shortcuts to get ahead? Or should the…

I hear a lot, from my therapist, other researchers, and articles, that many of us complain that we feel ‘different’ or ‘other’ in the context of our immediate communities of friends and families. Here I argue that, doesn’t feeling different unite us somehow? Also, that being different is the secret…

This week I discuss something my therapist told me. I was explaining to her how I have always felt ‘other’, ‘different’, or ‘apart from’ whatever community I’ve been a part of – to varying degrees. She told me that nearly every person she has ever counseled says the same thing….