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Codependency as an Addiction (KEW Episode 125)

Divorce taught me that I had been very codependent in my first marriage. Many would argue that my ex-wife was narcissistic. As KEW readers and listeners know, I don’t like either of those words but I think they describe some very human attributes. Some people are very confident and others are not so much. The extreme ends of this continuum result in things like narcissism and codependency. I have a whole episode about this dynamic:…

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‘How to Be a Master Your Addictions and Win at Life’ FLASHBACK! KEW Episode 19: Addiction

Are you addicted to anything? Are you NOT addicted to anything, is more like it. Aren’t we all addicted to something? Even my ex-mother-in-law, who was as pious and church-going as they come drank 4-5 diet cokes daily. We all have something. Most of us. Booze, nicotine, weed, xanax, sex, gambling. Or even things like news, social media, or our phones. And I ain’t judgin’. No, I’m right there with you. I identify more with…

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FLASHBACK! Episode 19: Addiction

I’ve been addicted to nicotine since I was around 15 years old. Ten years of cigarettes, traded those for dip tobacco for another decade, and have chewed nicotine gum on and off since it has been available without prescription. I say I have a nicotine addiction, but it’s really about the habit more than anything. I’m addicted to the part of my identity that says I’m addicted to nicotine. In this episode I bring in…

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KEW Episode 26: Habits – Why are they so hard to break?

Seriously. WTF? Habits are really hard to change. Trying to exercise? Eat better? Cleaning up your potty mouth? It ain’t easy. And the crazy thing is, as hard as habits are to change it seems like picking up bad habits is easy. Changing habits is hard stuff. And I’m not just talking about physical addictions or bad habits. Besides just habitual behavior we also have emotional and intellectual habits that could use some modification. I…

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