Last week I introduced a few examples of the Are vs. Should problem. One of the most obvious examples comes up when we think about our careers. When we’re young people ask us what we want to be when we grow up. As adults, many of us wonder what became…
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FLASHBACK! KEW Curiosity Interview 2: Mandy Napier
After deciding to do an interview series about Curiosity I did what most people do; I Googled. One of the top links returned was an article by Mandy Napier called, “Curiosity: The essential business skill to develop right now“, and here’s a YouTube interview about the article: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zr6Gisg0AAg. I figured,…
KEW Episode 53: Are vs. Should Examples
As we move forward trying to discern the gist of the Are vs. Should Problem, I want to describe both the general dilemma and share a few specific examples. Generally speaking, you know you are in the Are vs. Should Problem when you experience discomfort, cognitive dissonance, anxiety, fear, anger,…
Preview KEW Episode 53: Are vs. Should Examples
I’m struggling a bit at the beginning of the Are vs. Should Problem I have been discussing in Episodes 51-53. So far, I have introduced the problem; that we all struggle with the person that we ARE and the person we think we SHOULD BE. I have described the first…
FLASHBACK! KEW Curiosity Interview Series 1: Paul Gadola
In this first of ten Curiosity interviews I introduce you to Paul Gadola. As I told Paul a few days ago, he is someone who has climbed the mountain, attainted Wisdom, and come back down the mountain to share the Wisdom with us. He has not only put a lot…
KEW Episode 52: ‘Hard’ and ‘Soft’ Realities
As we pursue the “Are vs. Should Problem” and examine our personal inventory, I want to describe two main ways we can understand our selves and the realities we live in. First, there is the measurable world. The ‘Hard’ world where science reigns supreme. Things are measurable, quantifiable, and therefore…
Preview KEW Episode 52: ‘Hard’ and ‘Soft’ Realities
As I navigate through the ‘Are vs. Should’ Problem‘ I see an initial split as we start to unpack our personal inventories. If we first have to lay out all the elements of our lives for inspection and understanding, it becomes obvious that there are (at least) two types of…
FLASHBACK! KEW Episode 40: Get Out of Your Head!
I am learning that our brain, mind, head, is not who we ARE. We are not the VOICE in our heads, we are the one LISTENING to the voice in our heads. What we call ‘our head’ is largely our analytical mind, and it’s just a part of the larger…
KEW Episode 51: Personal Inventory
On our journey to define the ARE vs SHOULD problem (Episode 50), we must first define the ‘existing conditions’. Like many scientific endeavors (and I’m NOT saying this is a scientific endeavor, rather, that I will take a scientific APPROACH), the Are vs Should investigation needs to know where it’s…
Preview KEW Episode 51: Personal Inventory
The concept of a personal inventory is common to many therapy, personal growth, and coaching approaches. Essentially, before you can implement a change, you have to know WHAT you’re changing. So the personal inventory is all your STUFF. Your WANTS. Your NEEDS. Your LIKES. Your DISLIKES. Your VALUES (see Episode…