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How Neurodivergent People Can Learn Healthy Boundaries

Have you ever thought about your boundaries? Maybe a therapist told you your boundaries were weak. Or maybe you read something about relationships and how some people might not respect your boundaries.  I learned early on that my boundaries are weak.  I tend to pay attention to other people’s needs more than my own. Some people in the world will take advantage of this. Many of us struggle to simultaneously love other people while protecting our…

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Codependency as an Addiction (KEW Episode 125)

Divorce taught me that I had been very codependent in my first marriage. Many would argue that my ex-wife was narcissistic. As KEW readers and listeners know, I don’t like either of those words but I think they describe some very human attributes. Some people are very confident and others are not so much. The extreme ends of this continuum result in things like narcissism and codependency. I have a whole episode about this dynamic:…

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Are all Leaders Narcissists? (KEW Episode 124)

The words ‘leader’ and ‘narcissist’ bug me. I think these two words are overused. I also don’t think we really know what they mean anymore. Maybe we never did. Maybe the words have been usurped by the very people defined by them. Let’s start with leadership. What is this, exactly? If you look on LinkedIn (which I did, then I quit) you will see ‘leadership’ as being a top-tier achievement. The word is thrown around…

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Preview KEW Episode 69: People Suck at Their Jobs

Do you know what I mean? I’m not trying to sound harsh, because obviously not EVERYONE sucks at their jobs, but I find myself saying this over and over again in my daily life. It may be the CEO of the famous social media company that can’t seem to tell the truth nor make good decisions about our privacy or his responsibility. It maybe the doctor with the horrible bedside manner. It could just be…

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FLASHBACK! KEW Episode 36: Narcissism & Codependency

We hear these terms a lot. He’s a narcissist. She’s being codependent. I would guess that these are two of the most common psychological terms used in everyday conversation. And I’d also bet, that many people use these terms very loosely and maybe even inaccurately. Like a lot of things, do we really know what these words mean? I guess as long as we’re all on the same page, or close, it doesn’t matter. So…

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KEW Episode 36: Narcissism & Codependency

After my divorce I did some serious soul searching (and therapy) to figure out what happened. I accepted that both parties played a part in the divorce and wanted to understand what happened. Multiple lines of evidence support that my ex-wife became narcissistic and I became codependent. Now, I’m not saying ‘she is narcissistic’ or ‘I am codependent’, but our relationship brought out these personality traits and made them pretty severe. I think many people…

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Preview KEW Episode 36: Narcissism & Codependency

If you’ve watched a few KEW Episodes you’ll know I have codependent, people-pleasing tendencies. This week I share what I’ve learned about codependency and narcissism. I’ve spent a decade working on my personal issues, and these two personality ‘situations’ seem to be incredibly common. Maybe some of my stories will help. Here’s a preview: https://www.facebook.com/watch/?v=2500346136935365 Full Episode this Friday.

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