Don’t give me your abundance bs Photo by Alexander Mils on Unsplash In 1997 I had a job paying ten dollars an hour, and I was the righest guy I knew. I was 25 years old, had an undergraduate degree, and had worked in a part-time government field position for two years. Minimum…
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A Codependency Manifesto
What loving yourself really means. We’ve all heard it. To love someone else, you have to love yourself first. I can’t tell you how many times this has been said to me in therapy. I even conducted a lengthy podcast interview series, and nearly every guest said the same thing. …
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We Can Reach Fitness by Returning to the Optimum Condition
Have you ever sat down and thought about your values? Values are important, motivating, and provide guidance. I’ve done a lot of values work in therapy and find it challenging. I value many things, but prioritizing the top five to ten is difficult and dynamic. One thing I have learned during…
A Comprehensive Approach to Understanding Our Biosphere
Would our ancestors be proud of us? When I think of the problems humans face today: suffering, anxiety, inequality, social justice issues, war, pollution . . . I try to put things in an evolutionary context. On the one hand, we have come so far. We have created many wonderful ‘science’, ‘technology’, and…
What Freedom Means to Me
The fourth of July makes me ashamed. I’m ashamed of myself because I can’t seem to match the patriotism that surrounds me. In the USA, people get almost spiritual about their fireworks, hot dogs, and freedom worship. Behind all of this, for me, is a whole lot of weirdness. The…
Would You Rather Be Right, or Happy?
Remember the last time you were at a real life impasse? It’s a cruddy feeling. Especially with someone you love. It’s frustrating to disagree. To reach a moment where you realize there’s no way to resolve the tension in the air. A simple conversation becomes conflict. We understand that the…
Life is Supposed to Change: The Evolution Paradox
Everything about our ‘biological-ness’ is related to change. The developmental stages are all changes. We all grow bigger through life. We go through a brief period of fast growth, then switch over to a period of reproduction. These things are true for all life forms. We share, with ALL biology,…
I Run My Blog Like I Ran My Brewery
Which makes me a terrible business person I was a terrible business owner. At least from a capitalist viewpoint. My ‘mission statement’ was basically, “I make great beer. If you like great beer, you should try it!”. Seriously. That was it. Yes, we had a facebook page to share business…
It isn’t Capitalism, Religion, or Politics. There’s Just Too Many People.
It’s a numbers game I can almost always explain an observation, conflict, dilemma, or issue, with the ‘too many people’ explanation. I have as many degrees in Ecology and Evolutionary Biology as one can get. I’m not bragging, just explaining my credentials for making the observation that the problems we…