Differential healing in relationships Photo by Pawel Czerwinski on Unsplash Self-help is a funny thing. It both defines and sickens me. While I firmly believe the only healthy growth is the personal kind, I also wish I could leave it alone. Sometimes, I secretly envy the rugged hypermasculine individuals who cry ‘woke’ and…
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Creativity, Imposter Syndrome, and Not Having Language to Describe Who You Are
No one teaches us that we can be different; we just are I’m wrestling with something and need help. Maybe you are, too. Maybe you can help me. Maybe we can all help each other. Backstory I didn’t know what I wanted to be when I went to college over…
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Not Taking Things Personally Is the Hardest Thing I’ve Ever Tried to Do
But it may be the most rewarding skill we can learn I’ve been ‘in therapy’ for almost two decades. For about one-third of my life, I have sought help from others to heal my emotional wounds. I’m not weird or special. According to SAMHSA, over 50 million Americans received mental health…
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Why Being Excluded Is Powerful
Is this how we learn empathy? Have you ever been excluded? The world can be a pretty exclusive place. Chances are, you’ve experienced this at some point. Being left out sucks. Often, exclusion places us in out-groups that wouldn’t exist without the in-group creating the problem. Dark doesn’t exist without…
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Reincarnation May Not Be True but It Can Be Helpful
Do other people ever make you angry? I’d be worried about you if you said no. Or assume you are the Dalai Lama. Many of us struggle to find connections to people we disagree with. Or people who act out, are annoying, or mean. I preach a lot about how we…
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Mindfulness Practice Is the Key to Human Success
Are you familiar with Jon Kabat-Zinn? In short, he’s one of the people who has made meditation mainstream. While I generally don’t like words like ‘mainstream’ and ‘conformity’, anything that makes helpful tools more accessible to the masses is good in my book. Known as one of the creators of…
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Pondering 50 Years of My Quirks
I used to think there was something wrong with me. AsI mull over my recent late self-diagnosis of Level 1 Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD) I feel the need to document my thoughts. This is the third of many posts to come on the subject. I started telling my neurodivergent story here and here and…
“How to Trust Your Gut” Preview KEW Episode 92: Intuition
How many times has someone told you to trust your gut? Or to use your intuition? What does that even mean? In the past few years I have done a lot of somatic meditation and coaching. I have learned to ‘get in touch with my body’. I didn’t know what…
“Choosing a ‘Smaller’ Life Brings Her Integrity” KEW The Are vs Should Problem Interview Series: Candice Smiley
Have you experienced trauma? Have you overcome adversity? Many, if not most, of us have not have perfect lives. Candice Smiley is like us. Though we don’t talk specifically about her past, you will be amazed to learn that this sophisticated, confident, and calm woman made it through her suffering….
Preview KEW The Are vs. Should Interview Series: Bruce Nachsin
Bruce Nachsin came to us through a podcaster facebook group. He has his own podcast called, ‘The Fattest Fit Kid You Know’. He’s super funny, a Hollywood actor, and knows a thing or two about living in your ‘Are’. It was incredibly fun (and funny!) to sit and talk with…