Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me Do you remember this nursery rhyme? When I was younger, I believed it. I thought I would rather be yelled at than physically harmed. While I feel lucky to have received more verbal bullying than actual butt-kickings,…
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One Cognitive Distortion You Can Change To Reduce Anxiety
Meditation for your middle-of-the-night worries Do you follow the weather? You know, do you check the forecast to see what it’s going to be like outside? Do you appreciate meteorologists? Or beat up on them? It probably depends on whether the forecasts are accurate. And they are accurate a lot…
‘We Are . . . . Earth. Solving the Problem Together’ Preview KEW Episode 97: New World View
A lot of people may have an issue with this Episode. I really don’t have a feel for how many people believe we are all connected. KEW Episode 10 focused on the idea of Connectedness, but I don’t know if it is a popular concept. To me it is obvious…
KEW The Are vs Should Interview Series: Antia Boyd
Do you struggle with relationships? I did for a long time. I went through a divorce in 2010 and that kickstarted an interesting adventure in dating and thinking about companionship in general. Luckily, I met a wonderful woman and remarried. But the five years I spent uncoupled were hard, to…
KEW and Chris Burcher on ‘AccordingtoDes’ podcast.
I recently had the pleasure of being interviewed by Desiree Argentina on her podcast ‘AccordingtoDes‘. The Episode title is ‘How IFS Can Help You Overcome Anxiety and Depression’ and goes into my history with therapy and my struggles with mindset/mental health. Des was so easy to talk to and the…
Preview KEW The Are vs Should Interview Series: Stephanie Mitchell
It is my pleasure to introduce you to Stephanie Mitchell this week. Stephanie is a psychotherapist, trainer, and consultant residing in beautiful Adelaide, Australia. She primarily works with complex trauma and psychosis and is very much focused on using the Internal Family Systems (IFS) model to help people live better…
KEW The Are vs Should Interview Series: Neil Bjorklund
I am extremely excited for you to meet Neil Bjorklund in this week’s Are vs Should Interview Series. Unlike most KEW interviews, I knew Neil prior to having him on KEW. But probably not as well as he knows me, as he is my coach. I have worked with Neil…
Preview KEW Episode 78: Assumptions and Core Principles
As we figure out exactly what is happening at KEW, which is mostly coming up with workable strategies to help analytical, empathic, and intelligent folks live calmer and more relaxed lives, it’s necessary to state our assumptions and identifying elements. In any good scientific endeavor (and this ISN’T science, but…
FLASHBACK! KEW Episode 57:
Being confused is no fun. Think about a time in your life when you have conflicting things going on. Maybe it’s whether or not to leave your job. Or break up with a partner. Or to have kids or not. As humans there is a lot of this cognitive dissonance….
KEW Episode 66: Clarity
Remember that time when everything seemed perfectly clear? Yeah, me neither. But once in awhile things DO seem clear. And it feels good. There’s no doubt (Episode 28) and things just make sense. Though these moments are fleeting, I think we can learn to maximize the amount of clarity we…