FLASHBACK! KEW Episode 55: The Bully and Your DNA: Part 2

In Part 2 of this series I dig deep into the link between our ‘ares’ and our DNA.

I am working on a theory, ‘The Uniqueness Imperative’, that describes a link between who we are and our DNA. I’m starting to look at psychology from an evolutionary biology perspective. I guess having a background in the evolution side coupled with an interest in psychology and therapy this is what you get.

In short, I wonder if it is our duty or responsibility to ‘express’ as much of our DNA as possible. A lot of this expression – how our DNA shows up in our individual person – is beyond our control. Most inherited traits just show up. But some traits require an environmental interaction.

Some genes give us a propensity for traits. The DNA provides the machinery and we develop this through practice.

We may grasp music or math better than other people.

We may have a very even demeanor and not react strongly to stress.

There are infinite possibilities.

And this makes sense with our understanding of genetics because there is a definite interaction between our DNA and the environment with respect to how some traits express themselves or develop.

So in the context of the Are vs Should Problem, our DNA becomes a major determinant in our ‘ares’.

In other words, the things we are ‘meant to do’.

Or the things we have a passion for.

The things that motivate us to get out of bed in the morning.

I’m suggesting these things have a genetic component.

Who we are is a big part of what we want out of life.

Original post with links to podcast audio and YouTube video here: https://chrisburcher.com/2021/07/23/kew-episode-55-the-bully-and-your-dna-part-2/

KEW Episode 72: What is Success?

If you said ‘money’ or ‘power’, you are not alone.

Sure, there are lots of different versions of success.

Getting a good grade.

Getting a raise or a better job.

Being invited to a prestigious event.

Being revered or treated like a celebrity.

But I think we can generally boil down the status quo definition of success to be related to having a lot of money or having a lot of power.

Mirriam-Webster tell us:

1 the fact of getting or achieving wealth, respect, or fame

And we could measure these things in units that are NOT money or power. But do we?

That’s what I discuss in this week’s episode.

Personally, I think measuring success in dollars and power units like followers or likes or attention is limiting and short-sighted.

I would rather my life be measured in units of comfort. And peace. And calm. And love.

But that’s not sexy. Love doesn’t get you flashy cars or big houses. Or designer jeans. Or whatever it is that people value.

And there’s that word again: value.

It all comes down to our values.

What is important to you?

What gets you out of bed in the morning?

What do you find motivating?

I would guess that many people would say money or power. This is why it is so critical to really think about what you value in order to get on your best path.

Because I can’t imagine a life that considers money or power to be the only meaningful things one can experience.

In fact, I would say one needs to ‘get away’ from money and power to really experience the best things in life.

How did we get it so backwards? How is it that people measure success the way many of us do? How is it that we don’t see happiness or satisfaction as worthy achievements?

If nothing else, how do we let each other know that we value other things and that success can be measured other ways? How do we support each other in our alternatives?

Maybe that’s the question of the day.

So. How do you measure success?

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FLASHBACK! KEW Episode 51: Personal Inventory

I learned about the personal inventory reading Carlos Castaneda’s book series about Don Juan and the Toltec ‘men and women of knowledge’.

The idea of a personal inventory describes the process of examining one’s total life from every possible angle. By looking inward and examining one’s life, we can summarize all the things that we have done, what has happened to us, our system of beliefs, and what comprises our ‘self’. This is a metaphysical list of our interests, quirks, tastes, ideas, opinions, coupled with our history and experiences.

In essence, the personal inventory is all of the things that make you, you. It is the comprehensive descriptive list of you.

Think about how complex that is; and seemingly infinite. But the personal inventory is not infinite. It is very much finite. And it is very much different for every person.

A personal inventory is as unique as you are, and it describes your uniqueness.

And the process of figuring out who you are is fundamental to progress.

At the very least this process will help you figure out your Values (Episode 46) which are the backbone to personal growth.

And the personal inventory is not just a one time deal. This can be a dynamic process we use throughout our lives to check-in and remember where (and who) we are.

Sure, the first time through can be exhausting and take a while. But after that it’s fairly easy to remind yourself of the fundamentals, add new things, and check in.

More than anything, going through the motions of examining your life, really spending some time on it, and looking at who you are is only going to help.

Here’s a link to the original post with links to the podcast audio and video: https://chrisburcher.com/2021/06/25/kew-episode-51-personal-inventory/

Also, here’s a link to ‘A Separate Reality’, the second book in the Castaneda series: https://www.amazon.com/Separate-Reality-Carlos-Castaneda/dp/0671732498/ref=asc_df_0671732498/?tag=hyprod-20&linkCode=df0&hvadid=312132072158&hvpos=&hvnetw=g&hvrand=7309053154433145723&hvpone=&hvptwo=&hvqmt=&hvdev=c&hvdvcmdl=&hvlocint=&hvlocphy=9008763&hvtargid=pla-434023511446&psc=1

KEW Episode 68: Accountability

Does this bother you?

You interact with someone at their job, maybe getting a coffee or something. The server is rude, obnoxious, entitled, and unhelpful. Maybe they’re even condescending toward you. You may or may not say anything, but, hey, you want your coffee. Maybe you think about it later, but at some point it occurs to you that they were not good at their job in that moment. Maybe it was an isolated event, maybe it was the norm.

But what gets me, and maybe you, too, is that they were THERE. Which means this WAS an isolated event or their supervisor didn’t notice. In any event, and this is where my mind always goes, the fact that they were still working suggests that there was no ACCOUNTABILITY for their behavior.

Whenever I see someone acting like an asshole I think, “at some point someone was supposed to kick their ass and didn’t’. In other words, people act the way they do because other people ALLOW them to, or ENABLE them.

So one thing accountability does is remove that enabling. It calls people out on their shit.

And that’s the point I’m trying to make with Accountability this week.

Again, from Miriam-Webster:

Accountability: an obligation or willingness to accept responsibility or to account for one’s actions

So, yeah, the misbehaving barista? No one was holding them responsible for their actions. Neither you, their supervisor, coworkers, other patrons, nor themselves.

And that just doesn’t work.

I’d argue that one of the main assumptions of any society is Accountability.

Where there is no Accountability, there can be no rules. No norms. No laws. (See Episode 56: Domestication for more on these)

So there is no society with out Accountability, yet we are maybe not doing the best job practicing this obligation.

We are obligated to hold each other AND OURSELVES accountable for our actions – and probably our thoughts, ideas, and other things where they influence other people.

When did we forget this?

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Preview KEW Episode 68: Accountability

Accountability:

the quality or state of being accountable

especially  an obligation or willingness to accept responsibility or to account for one’s actions

So, yeah, that first one’s lame because it references a definition with at least 7 meanings. The especially part gets pretty close, though.

How do you feel about accountability? Personally, I’m a huge fan.

In fact, I will go so far as to say one of my main complaints about the world is that people are often not held accountable for their actions.

By this I mean a few specific things:

-There should be consequences for our actions, and even thoughts.

-We should feel responsible for our actions and thoughts.

-That it should be understood that we do this FOR each other and not TO each other.

Accountability helps us make better choices; for ourselves and for our communities. It is an essential part of the agreements we make together.

I know, for example, that when my behavior, beliefs, thoughts, and actions are more public (as in, other people know about them) then I feel responsible for being authentic about myself (See Episode 67: Authenticity)

If you look back at Episode 10: Connectedness you will see the seeds of these agreements. Because, like it or not, we are all in this together.

Full Episode this Friday, right here on KEW.

KEW Episode 39: The Growth Fallacy

With respect to economics, people often say that you have to grow to stay in business. I heard this a lot when I tried to run my business at a static level of production (i.e., no growth). I found that we actually HAD MORE MONEY left over when we controlled expenses and held production at the level of demand. I discovered that we spent so much money on growth that we were more profitable when we didn’t have those line items. Imagine that!

So it bugs me when people adhere to that mantra: Grow or Die! It not only doesn’t make sense, it can be detrimental.

Take human population size. The more people, the more resources are consumed, and the more damage is done to our home. Now, we could certainly do this differently, but there is a concept called Carrying Capacity that says any population in a given area can only be as large as the resources available to support it.

So growth can be bad.

Now, I’m only talking about growth that consumes resources here. Personal growth. Learning. Musical ability. There are many types of growth that are healthy and, I believe, essential to humanity. But when considering consumptive growth, we absolutely have to start accounting for true resource use – after all, accounting is a critical part of business, right? And I argue that we have done some pretty poor accounting when it comes to big business and the environment.

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