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Learning About Where We Goofed Up

By kpluseiswise | April 11, 2024April 10, 2024 by kpluseiswise

What went right? Do you ever wonder how we got here? Do you ever think about what has changed over hundreds of thousands of years of human evolution? The past few decades have seen exponential growth in technology. Smartphones. Passenger trips to space. Electric vehicles. Lots of crazy new tech. In most of our lifetimes, technological advances have dominated the changes we experience. Science changed the world. Medical advances like germ theory and surgical techniques have…

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Does Neurodivergence Empower Us to Resist Conformity?

By kpluseiswise | February 22, 2024February 20, 2024 by kpluseiswise

This week I’ll skip right to the punchline. The ability to see beyond the mainstream and to understand the continuum of whatever feature it is in the world is a special gift. This is enhanced awareness. I wonder if being neurodiverse or atypical or having a sensitive or different nervous system, sort of gives us this ability. In an evolutionary context, I can see how this ability would have been selected for. Hypervigilance enabled some of…

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Codependency as an Addiction (KEW Episode 125)

By kpluseiswise | May 18, 2023May 15, 2023 by kpluseiswise

Divorce taught me that I had been very codependent in my first marriage. Many would argue that my ex-wife was narcissistic. As KEW readers and listeners know, I don’t like either of those words but I think they describe some very human attributes. Some people are very confident and others are not so much. The extreme ends of this continuum result in things like narcissism and codependency. I have a whole episode about this dynamic:…

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Are all Leaders Narcissists? (KEW Episode 124)

By kpluseiswise | May 11, 2023May 10, 2023 by kpluseiswise

The words ‘leader’ and ‘narcissist’ bug me. I think these two words are overused. I also don’t think we really know what they mean anymore. Maybe we never did. Maybe the words have been usurped by the very people defined by them. Let’s start with leadership. What is this, exactly? If you look on LinkedIn (which I did, then I quit) you will see ‘leadership’ as being a top-tier achievement. The word is thrown around…

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Preview KEW Episode 69: People Suck at Their Jobs

By kpluseiswise | October 27, 2021 by kpluseiswise

Do you know what I mean? I’m not trying to sound harsh, because obviously not EVERYONE sucks at their jobs, but I find myself saying this over and over again in my daily life. It may be the CEO of the famous social media company that can’t seem to tell the truth nor make good decisions about our privacy or his responsibility. It maybe the doctor with the horrible bedside manner. It could just be…

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FLASHBACK! KEW Episode 36: Narcissism & Codependency

By kpluseiswise | May 31, 2021 by kpluseiswise

We hear these terms a lot. He’s a narcissist. She’s being codependent. I would guess that these are two of the most common psychological terms used in everyday conversation. And I’d also bet, that many people use these terms very loosely and maybe even inaccurately. Like a lot of things, do we really know what these words mean? I guess as long as we’re all on the same page, or close, it doesn’t matter. So…

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KEW Episode 36: Narcissism & Codependency

By kpluseiswise | January 1, 2021June 2, 2022 by kpluseiswise

After my divorce I did some serious soul searching (and therapy) to figure out what happened. I accepted that both parties played a part in the divorce and wanted to understand what happened. Multiple lines of evidence support that my ex-wife became narcissistic and I became codependent. Now, I’m not saying ‘she is narcissistic’ or ‘I am codependent’, but our relationship brought out these personality traits and made them pretty severe. I think many people…