And how to facilitate healing You’ve probably heard it 1,000 times. You have to love yourself first. Low self-worth is holding you back. It would help if on your self-esteem. When I shared my struggles and concerns with therapists, counselors, and coaches I would hear some version of these statements….
Tag: personal growth
The Hyper-Vigilant Perfectionist Mind-Reading Empath
Does this sound like you? This phrase keeps running around in my head: Hyper-Vigilant Perfectionist Mind-Reading Empath It isn’t complete, but it broadly sums up fifteen years of therapy. It describes me, my childhood, and my healing struggle. And I wonder if it describes others as well. That’s the point…
The Agony of the Gifted Child
A late identified neurodivergent perspective. Have you seen this Far Side comic by Gary Larson? It’s near-ubiquitous in my memory. Just the other day I thought of it again. But this time I remembered it through the awareness of my neurodivergence. Like many of us, I was placed into the US…
Hitting the Pause Button to Deliver Our Boat
I want to let y’all know what is going on in my life. There will be a pause in my articles, podcast, and videos until at least August. For the next two weeks or so I will be delivering our boat from the BVI to the USA. Wait, WTaF? For…
We Can Reach Fitness by Returning to the Optimum Condition
Have you ever sat down and thought about your values? Values are important, motivating, and provide guidance. I’ve done a lot of values work in therapy and find it challenging. I value many things, but prioritizing the top five to ten is difficult and dynamic. One thing I have learned during…
On Being a Good Steward of Earth
Socializing the gains You don’t have to look far to find something to complain about. Climate change Inequality Suicidal ideation Malnutrition Loneliness The world is full of problems. Now, I’m no doomer. My intent is not to illuminate human suffering. Rather, I accept the Buddhist notion that there will be suffering….
Is Punctuated Equilibrium a Good Way to Change the World?
It’s monolithic Have you seen (or read) “2001: A Space Odyssey”? This joint effort by Stanley Kubrick and Author C. Clarke blew minds when it came out in 1968. And it still does, today. Some people complained that the story was too slow, but I think it is amazing that…
Is This a Testable Personal Growth Hypothesis?
Does science play a role in your life? Do you value hard data and evidence? Do you think humans are good at proving things? Or maybe you defer to religion or culture to decide what is real? I talk a lot about how science is over or undervalued. Some folks think…
Reincarnation May Not Be True but It Can Be Helpful
Do other people ever make you angry? I’d be worried about you if you said no. Or assume you are the Dalai Lama. Many of us struggle to find connections to people we disagree with. Or people who act out, are annoying, or mean. I preach a lot about how we…
Can We Treat Death as a Mentor?
Ok, I know, this sounds weird but hear me out. Humans are freaked out by death. I’m not saying I’m any different, just drawing attention to this in hopes of reducing our suffering. Today I’m wondering what life would be like if we could change our relationship with death. The Toltec…