Don Miguel Ruiz, author of many books including ‘The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom (A Toltec Wisdom Book)‘ uses the term “Domestication” to describe the process by which humans are taught how to live. I have been fascinated by this process, whatever you wish to call it,…
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The Bully and your DNA: Part 2
In this second part of the Bully vs your DNA miniseries I describe the DNA part. I will make the argument here, which is a fundamental element of my future work on the Are vs Should Problem, that it is our birthright to express our DNA as fully as possible….
The Bully and your DNA: Part 1
Last week I introduced a few examples of the Are vs. Should problem. One of the most obvious examples comes up when we think about our careers. When we’re young people ask us what we want to be when we grow up. As adults, many of us wonder what became…
Are Versus Should Examples
As we move forward trying to discern the gist of the Are vs. Should Problem, I want to describe both the general dilemma and share a few specific examples. Generally speaking, you know you are in the Are vs. Should Problem when you experience discomfort, cognitive dissonance, anxiety, fear, anger,…
‘Hard’ and ‘Soft’ Realities
As we pursue the “Are vs. Should Problem” and examine our personal inventory, I want to describe two main ways we can understand our selves and the realities we live in. First, there is the measurable world. The ‘Hard’ world where science reigns supreme. Things are measurable, quantifiable, and therefore…
The Are Versus Should Problem
The human condition is a struggle between who we ARE and who we think we SHOULD BE Though I’m sure this isn’t entirely universal, it’s close enough for me. And it IS me. And I want to share my thoughts about the WHAT, WHY, and HOW of this struggle with…
Who Are You?
I mean, really, who are you? No, I mean, really, who are you? Who Am I? Do we know? Do we care? I, for one, think it is important, even CRITICAL to know who I am, and presumably, for you to know who you are. I’m sure there are people…
Unlearning May Be More Important Than Learning
As I move toward Episode 50 and what I hope to be a major shift in what I’m working toward with KEW, I realize how important Unlearning is. How do we KNOW if we REALLY know what we THINK we know? Well, we don’t. But we can think about it….
Changing Your Behavior Changes Your Beliefs
Beliefs are things we see as truisms in our lives and regulate the decisions we make. In this post I talked about old beliefs. These are beliefs we learned as kids that protected us in some way, but no longer serve their purpose in our adult lives. The problem is,…
Do You Know Your Values?
In just about any kind of self help endeavor you will be asked to identify your values. While this sounds pretty easy, the process is far from simple. Turns out we like a lot of stuff. We ‘value’ many things. The trick is determining your top 3-5 values that truly…