Do you remember the term ‘coping mechanisms’? We used to hear this phrase often, usually when people were referring to our bad habits. Like, smoking is a coping mechanism for stress. Avoiding conflict is a coping mechanism for people who don’t want to get involved. Denial is a popular coping…
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Preview KEW Episode 54: The Bully and your DNA: Part 1
The Are vs. Should problem is unfolding before our eyes right here at KEW, on YouTube, and your favorite podcast server. The next step for me, and hopefully you will find this helpful, is to lay out the philosophical personalities of the Are and Should elements of ourselves. To me,…
Preview KEW Episode 52: ‘Hard’ and ‘Soft’ Realities
As I navigate through the ‘Are vs. Should’ Problem‘ I see an initial split as we start to unpack our personal inventories. If we first have to lay out all the elements of our lives for inspection and understanding, it becomes obvious that there are (at least) two types of…
KEW Episode 49: Who Are You?
I mean, really, who are you? No, I mean, really, who are you? Who Am I? Do we know? Do we care? I, for one, think it is important, even CRITICAL to know who I am, and presumably, for you to know who you are. I’m sure there are people…
FLASHBACK! KEW Episode 36: Narcissism & Codependency
We hear these terms a lot. He’s a narcissist. She’s being codependent. I would guess that these are two of the most common psychological terms used in everyday conversation. And I’d also bet, that many people use these terms very loosely and maybe even inaccurately. Like a lot of things,…
KEW Episode 48: Unlearning
As I move toward Episode 50 and what I hope to be a major shift in what I’m working toward with KEW, I realize how important Unlearning is. How do we KNOW if we REALLY know what we THINK we know? Well, we don’t. But we can think about it….
FLASHBACK! KEW Episode 33: Soul
In this Episode I tried to get at what our ‘soul’ is. I’m not sure I succeeded, but I think we all can agree that there’s a part of us that can’t really be identified. The soul is not our mind, it’s not our brain, it’s not our ‘self’ (whatever…
KEW Episode 44: Unnatural Selection
I am currently working on a larger project that will connect my background in Ecology and Evolutionary Biology with personal growth, psychology, and finding more joy and fulfillment in our lives. In Episode 43 I introduce some evolutionary evidence that every individual human is born to discover their uniqueness (despite…
KEW Episode 36: Narcissism & Codependency
After my divorce I did some serious soul searching (and therapy) to figure out what happened. I accepted that both parties played a part in the divorce and wanted to understand what happened. Multiple lines of evidence support that my ex-wife became narcissistic and I became codependent. Now, I’m not…
Preview KEW Episode 34: Self
Following up the Soul episode (KEW Episode 33) with a discussion of the Self. What is the self? I have been doing some work with a coach who is helping me understand the different parts of my psyche. Sound crazy? It isn’t. I am starting to believe that our ‘personalities’…