Where do you stand on the whole ‘personal responsibility’ issue? I always assumed that I had to take care of my own stuff. I made my choices and had to deal with them. When I had kids, everyone kept telling me, ‘it takes a village’, and I honestly didn’t understand…
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KEW The Are vs Should Interview Series: Antia Boyd
Do you struggle with relationships? I did for a long time. I went through a divorce in 2010 and that kickstarted an interesting adventure in dating and thinking about companionship in general. Luckily, I met a wonderful woman and remarried. But the five years I spent uncoupled were hard, to…
Preview KEW Episode 88: It Takes a Village
Have you ever heard anyone say, ‘it takes a village’? Man, I have. And I wish I understood earlier what they meant. When I was a full time stay-at-home dad, I felt totally isolated. My wife works 50+ hours a week. My parents were too old and far away to…
Preview KEW The Are vs Should Problem Interview Series: Antia Boyd
You know how some people are able to turn lemons into lemonade? That’s Antia Boyd. And it’s An-Tia, not A-nita. I was so excited to learn about how Antia’s work translates to the Are vs Should Problem. She came so well prepared to talk about her work empowering women to…
FLASHBACK! KEW Episode 8: Goals, Accolades, and the Meaning of Life
If you’re a parent you know that parenting is a thankless job. When I interviewed Pat Schulte, we talked about how the lack of accolades can be a problem for remote workers (BTW, you should go listen to that interview now. Pat is amazing.) And, more generally, it is these…
KEW Episode 87: What Are You Afraid Of?
If you don’t like this question, you aren’t alone. Not many people like talking about, much less admitting, what they are afraid of. But I have found, in my work and over a decade meeting with therapists and coaches, that fear is a HUGE motivator. It turns out that a…
Preview KEW Episode 87: What Are You Afraid Of?
I know, I know. You’re not afraid of anything. None of us are, right? But if you are willing to let down your guard, I think you will see that, like everyone else, there are things that scare you. In fact, I argue that many of our issues, problems, and…
FLASHBACK! KEW Episode 7: Maleness
Toxic masculinity. The #metoo movement. Sexual harassment throughout the headlines. Cancel culture. What is a person to do? Are the gender definitions changing? Surely they are. Most words and things do change (and in these two episodes I argue for why this is natural and critical: https://chrisburcher.com/2021/09/03/kew-episode-61-the-are-vs-should-problem-change-is-hard-but-resisting-change-is-wrong/, https://chrisburcher.com/2021/09/10/kew-episode-62-change-cont/), so why…
KEW Episode 86: Mind Control
You’re probably like, ‘mind control, what’s this guy talking about?’ Either he’s going to tell us how we need to get in our heads and understand what’s going on, or he’s going to talk about how the algorithm has us under its spell. It reminds me of this scene from…
KEW The Are vs Should Problem Interview Series: Pat Schulte and Bumfuzzle
Analog nomads . . . . . When I decided to focus on the Are vs Should Problem, or the struggle between the person you ARE and the person you feel like you SHOULD BE, I was thinking mostly about the SHOULD part. To me, the issue isn’t so much…