Some folks may think this is a silly question. But if you’re reading this you probably think it’s a great question. First, thanks for coming! Second, I ask this question fairly literally as a means of transitioning along the pathway that is The Are vs Should Problem. For the last 25 (twenty-five!) Episodes I have followed my thoughts about the struggle between the person we ARE and the person we feel like we SHOULD BE.…
Ahh, stress, our bestest buddy. Our forever companion. The voice in our head telling us how much we suck. The ticking clock rushing us to work and home every day. Yeah, you know what stress is, but what is it REALLY? And how can it be so many DIFFERENT things? Can you define it if someone asks you? Beyond whatever it is in that particular moment that is bothering you? Like, generally, what is stress?…
In this flashback Episode I separated the two main elements from the Are vs Should Problem. The Bully is the ‘Shoulds’, those voices in your head telling you to do things a certain way, follow a specific path, or make a decision that jibes with an influential element in your life. In Part 2, I talk about the ‘are’ which I argue is inherent in our DNA. The idea of ‘shoulds’ is pretty common in…
Ok, sure. So more people than usual are not working. Makes sense. There was some unemployment incentives, a little extra cash, extended for a longer period of time. That probably made not working and being on unemployment more attractive for a while. There were also eviction moratoria across the U.S. that reduced monthly expenses for a lot of renters. And, sure, there was some fear about being around a lot of people; especially in the…
Do you know what I mean? I’m not trying to sound harsh, because obviously not EVERYONE sucks at their jobs, but I find myself saying this over and over again in my daily life. It may be the CEO of the famous social media company that can’t seem to tell the truth nor make good decisions about our privacy or his responsibility. It maybe the doctor with the horrible bedside manner. It could just be…
Who Are You? Have you ever asked yourself this question? Have you ever wondered about the ‘big things’? Do you believe Socrates was right when he said, ‘an unexamined life is not worth living?’. If this is you, read on. And please visit the rest of my posts, podcasts, and videos. Because I am one of you. I have asked myself this question from an early age. And I don’t really seek an ANSWER, as…
This Episode started out examining the different kinds of shoulds. Some shoulds come from extrinsic sources like my dad telling me I needed to get a job and not study philosophy in college, or your church telling you not to be gay. Extrinsic shoulds can be pretty easy to identify because they are often things we rebel against, are mean, or are even evil. Intrinsic shoulds can be complicated. Some are good. We tell ourselves…