We are all connected. To everything. To each other. To trees. To arsenic. To seemingly brainless, boneless mollusks. Whether we get that or not is critical to our place on earth. In this episode I share several lines of evidence I’ve learned in my life that support this theory. Feel free to show me where I’m wrong! There has never been a more critical time to understand this concept and I welcome a discourse on…
We ARE ALL connected. Whether you believe it or not. Today more than ever it is critical we move toward understanding that ‘fact’. Here I present multiple lines of evidence explaining why I believe all things are connected including a story about me talking to a cuttlefish. We are more alike than we are different. The particles that make up our bodies have a history. Perspective is everything. https://www.facebook.com/kpluseiswise/
You know these things. They’re opinions and ideas that you have, but don’t really know where they came from. They tend to repeat themselves and ultimately contribute to what we call personality. We didn’t really learn them in the classic way. No one told us X and Y. Really what happens is we develop a coping mechanism to deal with some stressful situation. Talking in public. Asking for help. Being bullied. We come up with…
Have you ever found yourself reacting to a situation in almost a robotic, preprogrammed way and wondered why? I have learned that a lot of our reactions stem from childhood events where we learned a strategy to avoid discomfort or fear. Like when we learned to people please to avoid conflict. Or to be funny to avoid being picked on. These are Old Beliefs and I talk more about what they are, why they form,…
I struggle with getting praise for my accomplishments. Earning money, having a ‘good job’, winning trophies, making people like you, achieving, getting good grades – so much of life is tied to ‘chasing carrots’ to earn accolades. In my youth my accolades were mostly self-realized. I was such a loner I had to learn to praise myself and realize my own accomplishments. These achievements were measured in things like satisfaction and happiness. But somewhere along…
I am fairly goal oriented and have chased accolades at various times in my life. I fell into the trap of ‘other praise’ in my academic career. Early on it was easy to achieve and have the world tell me I was ok. As a professor these accolades became rarer, and my ego/self esteem suffered. Somewhere I remembered that it is important to ‘esteem ourselves’ rather than wait for others to do it. And I…
I wanted to share my take on what it means to be male. From blue balls to machismo I call out a few outdated (IMHO) concepts and call on men to do better than some of us have in the past. I really don’t understand how some men have gotten away with so much over the years . . . . . I believe in equality, or equitable-ness, or equanimity, or some world where relationships…
Not masculinity, maleness. What is it like being male. For me, anyway. My observations of ’50s dads’ and ‘typical males’ and arguments for more equality in heterosexual (and possibly others, but I just don’t have that experience) relationships. My thoughts about being a male, our responsibilities to all genders, our roles as fathers, and on getting along in the world. I call out stupid behavior I see other males getting away with and question whether…