Last week I introduced a few examples of the Are vs. Should problem. One of the most obvious examples comes up when we think about our careers. When we’re young people ask us what we want to be when we grow up. As adults, many of us wonder what became…
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Are Versus Should Examples
As we move forward trying to discern the gist of the Are vs. Should Problem, I want to describe both the general dilemma and share a few specific examples. Generally speaking, you know you are in the Are vs. Should Problem when you experience discomfort, cognitive dissonance, anxiety, fear, anger,…
‘Hard’ and ‘Soft’ Realities
As we pursue the “Are vs. Should Problem” and examine our personal inventory, I want to describe two main ways we can understand our selves and the realities we live in. First, there is the measurable world. The ‘Hard’ world where science reigns supreme. Things are measurable, quantifiable, and therefore…
Taking a Personal Inventory
On our journey to define the ARE vs SHOULD problem, we must first define the ‘existing conditions’. Like many scientific endeavors (and I’m NOT saying this is a scientific endeavor, rather, that I will take a scientific APPROACH), the Are vs Should investigation needs to know where it’s coming from…
The Are Versus Should Problem
The human condition is a struggle between who we ARE and who we think we SHOULD BE Though I’m sure this isn’t entirely universal, it’s close enough for me. And it IS me. And I want to share my thoughts about the WHAT, WHY, and HOW of this struggle with…
Who Are You?
I mean, really, who are you? No, I mean, really, who are you? Who Am I? Do we know? Do we care? I, for one, think it is important, even CRITICAL to know who I am, and presumably, for you to know who you are. I’m sure there are people…
Unlearning May Be More Important Than Learning
As I move toward Episode 50 and what I hope to be a major shift in what I’m working toward with KEW, I realize how important Unlearning is. How do we KNOW if we REALLY know what we THINK we know? Well, we don’t. But we can think about it….
Changing Your Behavior Changes Your Beliefs
Beliefs are things we see as truisms in our lives and regulate the decisions we make. In this post I talked about old beliefs. These are beliefs we learned as kids that protected us in some way, but no longer serve their purpose in our adult lives. The problem is,…
Do You Know Your Values?
In just about any kind of self help endeavor you will be asked to identify your values. While this sounds pretty easy, the process is far from simple. Turns out we like a lot of stuff. We ‘value’ many things. The trick is determining your top 3-5 values that truly…
Career vs. Family
In this post I shared my thoughts about how to find time to meet all the various needs we have. In this episode I want to focus specifically on balancing time spent working toward our careers with time spent with our families. And for those of you without spouses or…