In 2010 I discontinued my use of all social media. I did so to avoid the pain of the he-said, she-said comments associated with my divorce, as part of my healing. It was extremely helpful and I did not miss social media in any way. In 2020 I waded back into the swamp of Twitter, Facebook, Instagram, Linkedin, etc. to support my new blog, podcast, and video series. Because I thought I needed to. Over…
Do you put on your oxygen mask first? Then what? We help our kids, our partners, the people sitting next to us. But we don’t think too much about what to do next. We are sort of obsessed with taking care of ourselves. And some of us suck at it. If you, like me, struggle with codependency, people pleasing, and conflict avoidance you may actually struggle with putting your needs first. Getting your needs met…
You know you do it. You think you are right about something, only to find out you were incredibly, undeniably, 180 degrees wrong. It happens. To all of us. To all of us humans, anyway. We all think we’re right. If we didn’t, we wouldn’t have conviction. We’d be open. We’d be undecided. Once we have made a decision, well, that decision is correct, correct? I mean, right? But not always. Many of us are…
Do you enjoy friendly competition? Many of us do. Some say it brings out the best in us. Some thrive in an environment where other people push us to perform at higher and higher levels. I can appreciate friendly competition like this. But I rarely see it. And sometimes even friendly competition turns sour. Feelings get hurt. Tempers flare. The high level of energy surrounding competitive exchanges can often spill over into anger. In Economics…
I don’t care much for competition. I grew up bullied by jocks. I never really liked team sports. I was a smart kid, but I didn’t like how the other smart kids competed with each other for grades. When I was learning mandolin, bluegrass musicians welcomed me with open arms. There was no competition among players like I observed in the rock and roll world. Competing always felt bad and not competing felt good. When…
If I’ve said it before, I’ve said it a million times. I still feel cheated by the rat race. The American Dream. The big lie. We are born, at least in the USA, dependent on the exchange of labor for money to support the US capitalist system. If we’re lucky we have guardians to support us until we are ‘adults’, but then we have to earn a few thousand dollars a month just to pay…
Do you seek balance in your life, or do you go all-in on things you like? I used to think everyone wanted balance, and had a moderate approach to all things in order to maintain that balance across their varied interests. Given that there are only so many hours in a day, it’s hard to do all the things we love to do – or even the things we don’t want to do! But I…
Do you remember Homeostasis from high school biology? Probably not – but I bet you have a pretty good idea about what it means. Here’s what Webster-Mirriam says it means: : a relatively stable state of equilibrium or a tendency toward such a state between the different but interdependent elements or groups of elements of an organism, population, or group Of course, then, we have to define equilibrium also: 1 a: a state of intellectual or emotional balance : trying to…
Has anyone ever told you to turn off your analytical mind? Or to use your intuition? I’m lucky to have a coach that constantly asks my analytical self to step aside. The space that remains, sans analysis, is incredibly interesting. And I think it’s where intuition lives. In fact, I’d say my idea of intuition was inaccurate. I guess I thought of it like a hunch. Or a tingly spidey sense. I’m not really sure…
You gotta give a little to get a little. . .