I’ll bet you ten bucks that you have had an experience that begs the question, ‘How Can I Tell the Difference?’. A simple and benign example might be whether or not you are being selfish. Your friends ask where everyone wants to eat and you say, ‘Taco Bell’ because (for some reason) you REALLY want Taco Bell. Then you might wonder (especially if you are an empathic, codependent, people pleaser) whether or not you are…
To close out the 10-part Curiosity interview series, the first on KEW, I reflect on the 9 interesting people I got to talk to. I asked everyone what role Curiosity had played in their lives and how it helped get them to where they are today. I am grateful and amazed that these folks would spend some time with us. I know some people want to promote, but everyone had something unique to say about…
Twenty years of training and working as an Ecologist and Evolutionary Biologist means I see everything as a system of interacting parts. I really can’t see the trees for the forest. When I look at a part, I see the system to which it belongs. It’s a curse. An example is when I worked for a state environmental agency. I absolutely needed my manager to explain to me how my position fit in to the…
As we move forward trying to discern the gist of the Are vs. Should Problem, I want to describe both the general dilemma and share a few specific examples. Generally speaking, you know you are in the Are vs. Should Problem when you experience discomfort, cognitive dissonance, anxiety, fear, anger, and other uncomfortable emotions. Of course, there could be many causes for these states of mind and it’s ALWAYS hard to identify the cause. It’s…
In this first of ten Curiosity interviews I introduce you to Paul Gadola. As I told Paul a few days ago, he is someone who has climbed the mountain, attainted Wisdom, and come back down the mountain to share the Wisdom with us. He has not only put a lot of energy into figuring some things out, he is putting a lot of energy into explaining what he has learned. Chief among his tenets is…
I am learning that our brain, mind, head, is not who we ARE. We are not the VOICE in our heads, we are the one LISTENING to the voice in our heads. What we call ‘our head’ is largely our analytical mind, and it’s just a part of the larger ‘us’ or ‘self’. Yeah, that’s a lot to ingest. And it’s a lot for me to type out and mean. It’s a compilation of things…
On our journey to define the ARE vs SHOULD problem (Episode 50), we must first define the ‘existing conditions’. Like many scientific endeavors (and I’m NOT saying this is a scientific endeavor, rather, that I will take a scientific APPROACH), the Are vs Should investigation needs to know where it’s coming from to understand where it’s going. And, really, the personal inventory is just that – it defines where we are at the beginning of…
I can’t wait for you to watch or listen to this weeks’ Curiosity interview. Dan Faill is one of those guys we can all learn from AND you’ll have a blast while you learn. After a successful career helping college students navigate greek life, Dan has transitioned to full time keynote speaker. He shares his knowledge, experience, and wisdom with us to help improve our lives. Dan is not afraid of the tough topics, rather…
I met DJ Doran when he reached out to interview me about my podcast. We hit it off rather quickly, and of course I had to have him on to discuss Curiosity. In fact, the whole Curiosity interview series was inspired by DJ! See, DJ told me my podcast made him curious, and he’s a very curious guy as you’ll see. And I realized that I am driven, in large part, by curiosity. It’s in…
Time. It’s our most valuable resource, yet for half our lives we think we have enough. Hell, we think we’re immortal for a good part of our lives, as if we have all the time in the world. Youth, is wasted on the young; retirement, on the old. But all of that is just to say we’re human. We suffer. And as I talk about in Episode 37: The Currency of Life, Time is a…