I’m gearing up for my 100th Episode. Not the episode itself, really, but what will happen AFTER the episode. I’m gearing up for KEW episodes 101-200. The next few Episodes leading up to 100 are building up to a massive idea that has arisen from the first 100. Kind of an integration and a revelation. I will introduce the main ideas in episodes 99 and 100. Then the fun begins. But to explain the title…
Have you ever felt like you were hearing multiple voices? Like in the ‘Are vs Should Problem’, there are two voices – the Are and the Should – vying for your attention. Sometimes it’s more than two. Which choice should you make? What will you order off the menu? Which alternate route home will be the quickest at 4:30 PM? All of us hear voices in our heads and they are often conflicting. Unfortunately, this…
Some folks may think this is a silly question. But if you’re reading this you probably think it’s a great question. First, thanks for coming! Second, I ask this question fairly literally as a means of transitioning along the pathway that is The Are vs Should Problem. For the last 25 (twenty-five!) Episodes I have followed my thoughts about the struggle between the person we ARE and the person we feel like we SHOULD BE.…
I hope you are as lucky as I am and have someone like Paul Gadola in your life. I this second part of our chat, the conversation starts firing on all cylinders. Lots of topics covered including Paul’s new book, “Integrity and Peace. Loving your neighbor and the Path of Truth” (available direct here), his background in hiking, the outdoors, and teaching, The Are vs Should Problem, and religion. Those of you patient enough to…
You think you know what stress is, but do you? I think the term ‘stress’ is oversimplified. Sure, sometimes just venting ‘I’m stressed!’ is helpful to get some of the negative energy out, let people know how you are generally feeling, or explain your behavior. But ‘stress’ is so overused, so ambiguous, and so cliche. And I only mention that because that means the word is losing it’s meaning. Also, because stress is often a…
Ok, so I got pretty lucky (again) when Dalton Johnson agreed to be interviewed on KEW. Like Dawn Bates, I met Dalton in a facebook group that links podcast with potential interviewees. All I knew about Dalton is, again like Dawn, he seemed to live more in his ‘are’. From what I could tell he was a digital nomad interested in rock climbing and photography. He seemed like a total bada$$. Well, I wanted to…
In this flashback Episode I separated the two main elements from the Are vs Should Problem. The Bully is the ‘Shoulds’, those voices in your head telling you to do things a certain way, follow a specific path, or make a decision that jibes with an influential element in your life. In Part 2, I talk about the ‘are’ which I argue is inherent in our DNA. The idea of ‘shoulds’ is pretty common in…
Would you rather be RIGHT, or HAPPY? Think about it. How many times have you faced this situation: You disagree with someone. A spouse, a friend, or coworker. And instead of getting curious and trying to understand each other, you end up in a posturing match of who will more strongly defend your position. How often does that end well? Yet we all do it, and continue to do it. Somehow DEFENDING our positions is…
During my brief stint as a philosophy major I really wanted to learn about Metaphysics. Mostly because I thought it sounded cool, but I really knew nothing about it. I’m not sure much has changed in that respect. But I was thinking recently about things that can’t be explained using the scientific method, like Self and Soul (KEW Episodes 33 and 34) and, well, this led to Episode 35. Science is great, but it was…
My therapist posed the question to me once, “Would you rather be right, or happy?” and I have thought about it ever since. At the end of the day, I’d rather be happy. Our desire to be right, to win arguments, or impose our beliefs and values on to others is contributing to the ‘us vs. them’ mentality so prevalent in today’s society – especially in the U.S.A. where I live. This week I discuss…