Ok, I know, this sounds weird but hear me out. Humans are freaked out by death. I’m not saying I’m any different, just drawing attention to this in hopes of reducing our suffering. Today I’m wondering what life would be like if we could change our relationship with death. The Toltec civilization of Central America considered death an advisor like a friend who gives advice. In this way, Toltecs navigated their lives knowing they were temporary.…
There was a time when my relationship with my father was pretty good. But during my teenage years I pretty much avoided him. During that period he gave me a lot of advice I didn’t want nor listen to. One of the things he told me was that I needed to ‘Walk the Talk’. The essence of this advice is that we need to live a life of integrity. After living half my life on…
Divorce taught me that I had been very codependent in my first marriage. Many would argue that my ex-wife was narcissistic. As KEW readers and listeners know, I don’t like either of those words but I think they describe some very human attributes. Some people are very confident and others are not so much. The extreme ends of this continuum result in things like narcissism and codependency. I have a whole episode about this dynamic:…
While this is not a definitive treatise on Systems Thinking, I wanted to talk a bit about this topic as it is relevant to many of my posts. People tell me that out-of-the-box thinking is atypical. Most people seem to think of the world in simplified, or at least minimized relationships. For example, you might think your job sucks. When thinking about how to change that or do something about it, you might think about…
Who Am I? Why Are We Here? What is My Purpose? Are We Living ‘Right’? Questions like this – the ‘big questions’ have been around since antiquity. It’s fun to think about when our brains reached a point in evolution where we started having luxury time. Because it’s a luxury to think. To ask these kinds of questions means we’ve already met our basic needs. At some point, we could sit down and take a…
Everything about our ‘biological-ness’ is related to change. The developmental stages are all changes. We all grow bigger through life. We go through a brief period of fast growth, then switch over to a period of reproduction. These things are true for all life forms. We share, with ALL biology, this unanimous and ubiquitous feature. We change. Evolution is simply change through TIME. The universe also changes. The laws of thermodynamics essentially describe these changes.…
Are you addicted to anything? Are you NOT addicted to anything, is more like it. Aren’t we all addicted to something? Even my ex-mother-in-law, who was as pious and church-going as they come drank 4-5 diet cokes daily. We all have something. Most of us. Booze, nicotine, weed, xanax, sex, gambling. Or even things like news, social media, or our phones. And I ain’t judgin’. No, I’m right there with you. I identify more with…
I can’t wait for you to see or listen to this Episode. Asking Pat to come on the podcast was a long shot. We are so lucky he could make time for us. I use the term ‘analog’ as a means of an introduction. In short, He and his wife, Ali left the rat race in their late 20s to sail around the world. They have changed vehicles multiple times (porches, airstreams, motorhomes, trawlers; mostly…
Ok, so I got pretty lucky (again) when Dalton Johnson agreed to be interviewed on KEW. Like Dawn Bates, I met Dalton in a facebook group that links podcast with potential interviewees. All I knew about Dalton is, again like Dawn, he seemed to live more in his ‘are’. From what I could tell he was a digital nomad interested in rock climbing and photography. He seemed like a total bada$$. Well, I wanted to…
Apparently I didn’t say quite enough about change in last weeks’ Episode 62: Change is Hard, but Resisting Change is WRONG! because when I say down to record this weeks’ Episode I just kept talking about CHANGE. Change. It’s the one thing we can count on. Since the Big Bang, the universe has been changing. Changing forms. Changing states. Changing composition. All around us, change is driving the universe. The Earth. Our behavior. The seasons.…