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If I Resist Social Media, Do I Even Exist?

In 2010 I discontinued my use of all social media. I did so to avoid the pain of the he-said, she-said comments associated with my divorce, as part of my healing. It was extremely helpful and I did not miss social media in any way. In 2020 I waded back into the swamp of Twitter, Facebook, Instagram, Linkedin, etc. to support my new blog, podcast, and video series. Because I thought I needed to. Over…

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‘You are You, and You are Me’ KEW Episode 97: A New World View

Do you put on your oxygen mask first? Then what? We help our kids, our partners, the people sitting next to us. But we don’t think too much about what to do next. We are sort of obsessed with taking care of ourselves. And some of us suck at it. If you, like me, struggle with codependency, people pleasing, and conflict avoidance you may actually struggle with putting your needs first. Getting your needs met…

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‘We Are . . . . Earth. Solving the Problem Together’ Preview KEW Episode 97: New World View

A lot of people may have an issue with this Episode. I really don’t have a feel for how many people believe we are all connected. KEW Episode 10 focused on the idea of Connectedness, but I don’t know if it is a popular concept. To me it is obvious that we are both individuals and also connected. Call it the dual nature of humans. Or dualism. Or individualism AND communism. Any kind of ism.…

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‘How to Be a Master Your Addictions and Win at Life’ FLASHBACK! KEW Episode 19: Addiction

Are you addicted to anything? Are you NOT addicted to anything, is more like it. Aren’t we all addicted to something? Even my ex-mother-in-law, who was as pious and church-going as they come drank 4-5 diet cokes daily. We all have something. Most of us. Booze, nicotine, weed, xanax, sex, gambling. Or even things like news, social media, or our phones. And I ain’t judgin’. No, I’m right there with you. I identify more with…

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“How Could I Be So Wrong While Being So Confident I Was Right?” KEW Episode 96: Type II Error

You know you do it. You think you are right about something, only to find out you were incredibly, undeniably, 180 degrees wrong. It happens. To all of us. To all of us humans, anyway. We all think we’re right. If we didn’t, we wouldn’t have conviction. We’d be open. We’d be undecided. Once we have made a decision, well, that decision is correct, correct? I mean, right? But not always. Many of us are…

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“Will You Be Remembered as a Good Person?” FLASHBACK! KEW Episode 16: Who Tells Your Story?

This post was inspired by Lin Manuel Miranda and ‘Hamilton’. History is ‘His’ ‘Story. No matter what happens, it is kept alive in memories, writing, and stories. And whomever keeps it alive interprets the story. However, eyewitness testimony, or individual human memory, has been shown to be among the LEAST reliable way to relate things that happen ( However, eyewitness testimony, or individual human memory, has been shown to be among the LEAST reliable way…

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“Are you a winner or a loser?” Preview KEW Episode 95: Cooperation vs Competition

I don’t care much for competition. I grew up bullied by jocks. I never really liked team sports. I was a smart kid, but I didn’t like how the other smart kids competed with each other for grades. When I was learning mandolin, bluegrass musicians welcomed me with open arms. There was no competition among players like I observed in the rock and roll world. Competing always felt bad and not competing felt good. When…

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“Because even if you win, you’re still a rat!” FLASHBACK! KEW Episode 15: Rat Racer

If I’ve said it before, I’ve said it a million times. I still feel cheated by the rat race. The American Dream. The big lie. We are born, at least in the USA, dependent on the exchange of labor for money to support the US capitalist system. If we’re lucky we have guardians to support us until we are ‘adults’, but then we have to earn a few thousand dollars a month just to pay…

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“Balance, Moderation, and Going All-In” KEW Episode 94: Homeostasis

Do you seek balance in your life, or do you go all-in on things you like? I used to think everyone wanted balance, and had a moderate approach to all things in order to maintain that balance across their varied interests. Given that there are only so many hours in a day, it’s hard to do all the things we love to do – or even the things we don’t want to do! But I…

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