FLASHBACK! KEW Episode 48: Unlearning

Many KEW episodes and posts refer to things I learned in the past that maybe don’t help us any more, are outdated, or were simply wrong to begin with. From thinking Competition actually regulates our markets (Episode 6), wondering how Old Beliefs (Episode 9) hold us back, to the idea that we all feel different, but that actually makes us the same (Episode 21). Under all of this there is a theme of having to learn new things.

But before we can learn new things, we have to Unlearn the old things. And this may seem like a silly thing to say, but it is often a critical step that can prevent us from growing. See, these old beliefs, the old ideas, the old information that is stored in our biological hard drive gets in the way of new learning.

It’s almost like your old ways resist the new ways. Like a stodgy old neighbor that wants you to stay off his lawn, our old strategies, the old knowledge, the past approaches to life stand in our way of the new. Until we address what we were wrong about, it’s hard to be right.

Or, in a better way, until we shed the old information and address why it doesn’t serve us we can’t possibly hope to truly understand and integrate the new.

This Episode originally aired in May of this year, or about six months ago. You can find the entire post here with links to the full podcast and YouTube episode. Note the second sentence is the Title of this weeks upcoming episode. At least my ideas are consistent:)

Preview KEW Episode 65: How Do We Know if We Really Know What We Think We Know?

I’m not sure where I heard this phrase but I always thought it had a nice balance of being both funny and thought provoking. Like, many a truth comes out in jest. It sounds like I’m kidding, but this is a serious question.

How do we ever ‘know’ anything? Go back to my very first Episode 1: Facts. This is part of what I was getting at. Humans just don’t have the capacity to know all the ‘truths’ and many things we think are ‘truths’ or ‘facts’ are just potential explanations or even just opinions.

Now I’m looking at the flip side of that. This episode is about our ‘knowing’ rather than the knowledge itself. I’ll discuss choice, belief, and reality. I talk about manifesting. In the end I wonder whether or not we have become distracted by the choosing and have forgotten about the action itself. Isn’t moving through life the goal? Rather than trying to get it ‘right’?

I am making progress toward some ‘to-do’s or action steps for the Are Vs. Should Problem and in this Episode I developed some clear pathways to next steps. I hope you enjoy it.

Full Episodes release Fridays at 5 AM on YouTube and your favorite podcast host. I also post here on my blog in honor of new episodes. Mondays are flashback episodes and Wednesdays are previews like this one:)

FLASHBACK! KEW Episode 47: Changing Behavior Changes Beliefs

For years I was stuck trying to THINK my way into changing my behaviors, beliefs, habits, actions.

Not that I was all that bad or needed massive changes, but there were things I wanted to be different.

I would get anxious a lot.

I would get defensive sometimes.

I would say no to social invitations.

I would be afraid to try some new things.

You know, just some things I wanted to change. So, I would say things like, ‘next time I’m going to remind myself to do that differently’.

But I wouldn’t. Or, I would remember to remind myself, but be so overwhelmed I would end up doing the same things.

I would end up doing the same things. Out of habit.

And to change habits, we have to change our brains. It’s funny, but we can’t think our way into changing our brains.

We can’t change our brains WITH our brains.

We change the way we think by changing what we do.

Original post with full audio and video links: https://chrisburcher.com/2021/05/07/kew-episode-47-changing-behavior-changes-beliefs/

KEW Preview Episode 63: The Two Types of Shoulds

This Episode started out examining the different kinds of shoulds. Some shoulds come from extrinsic sources like my dad telling me I needed to get a job and not study philosophy in college, or your church telling you not to be gay. Extrinsic shoulds can be pretty easy to identify because they are often things we rebel against, are mean, or are even evil.

Intrinsic shoulds can be complicated. Some are good. We tell ourselves we *should* eat better and not have two pieces of cake. We *should* call our mother more often. Sometimes these shoulds come 100% from within us, but often they are actually extrinsic shoulds disguised as our own. The world has told us not to eat so much cake and that good sons and daughters call their moms more often. So it’s hard.

But I think, inherently, the more we come to know the are and to live in that space, the easier it is to identify whether your shoulds are intrinsic or extrinsic. In other words, I believe humans fundamentally KNOW THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN GOOD AND EVIL. It’s just that the more time we spend in the shoulds, we forget.

Like I often do, I wander a bit in this episode toward some emerging elements. I began a shift, in real time, toward a more somatic and external assessment of our personal growth path with respect to the Are vs Should Problem. I even go so far as to suggest we take the focus off ourselves for awhile, and focus on the people around us!

I hope you enjoy the tangents and trust that I will continue to develop these ideas in upcoming Episodes.

Full Episode in audio and video formats this Friday, right here at KEW http://www.chrisburcher.com.

Preview KEW Curiosity Interview Series 9: Marcas Hemmila

Marcas Hemmila is on a mission to help you grow, get unstuck, and ignite a fire in your life. His background is super interesting as he has been in the military and was a computer programmer, but is now spreading hope and help across the internet. So he brings with him a cool combination of leadership, a scientific mind, and a genetic predisposition to help people.

He is putting out incredible content daily on tiktok, instagram, an explosive YouTube channel with longer content, and has a website with links to all of his content including a podcast. You can find him by searching for “Discover Ignite” or just go to https://discoverignite.com.

Marcas wants you to Discover Ignite. To learn about your self and to create the life you want. I discovered when I joined Linkedin and HAD to find out more about him. In the 9th installment of my Curiosity interview series you get to meet Marcas, find out what motivated him to discover and ignite his own life, and learn more about his message.

Here’s a preview of the interview:

Full episode with podcast audio (download direct, or subscribe via your favorite podcast app!) and YouTube video coming this Friday at http://www.chrisburcher.com

KEW Episode 48: Unlearning

As I move toward Episode 50 and what I hope to be a major shift in what I’m working toward with KEW, I realize how important Unlearning is. 

How do we KNOW if we REALLY know what we THINK we know?

Well, we don’t. But we can think about it. And unlearning comes in to play as a necessary ‘next step’ for those of us who have ever asked this kind of question. Or questions like:

Who am I?
What’s all this about?
What’s the meaning of life?
Is there life after death?
Why is my dad so racist?

Generally, Unlearning is only important to people who have ever wondered WHY they feel a certain way, think a certain way, or behave a certain way. Where did this ‘certain way’ come from? I’ll develop this idea much further after episode 50, but for now let’s say that MUCH of what we think, what we ARE, WHO we are comes from stuff we never really thought much about. Things we automatically learned as we grew up. Some of it we learned before we even had awareness. Or free will. Some of us carry these beliefs into adulthood. Some of us never know.

But for those of us who DO know. Who have asked these types of questions (who ARE you?). The first thing we have to do is recognize what we really KNOW and FEEL and BELIEVE and what’s just a bunch of stuff we learned. And then to sort of ‘wipe the slate clean’ and start over. That’s where UNLEARNING comes in. That’s all I’m saying when I say UNLEARN.

It’s about questioning our beliefs and our thoughts. It’s about figuring out what we DO think and believe. And about getting on the path toward exploring what life is all about. It’s pretty simple.

I hope you enjoy this week’s episode and stick around for what’s to come. Please follow me on my blog and/or YouTube and SIGN UP for weekly emails so you can participate in the development of these ideas.

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Direct link to YouTube video: https://youtu.be/TKpJgTCnDeY

Preview KEW Curiosity Interview Series 4: David McRaney from You Are Not So Smart

A few years ago someone randomly suggested I listen to a cool podcast called “You Are Not So Smart”. I was a bit insulted, thinking they were trying to tell me something, but I felt more curious than anything. I had to know what this was all about. So way before I started KEW I listened to David McRaney and “You Are Not So Smart”. I was immediately impressed by how well researched and knowledgeable he was about his guests and the topics.

Mr. McRaney isn’t out to insult anyone. He’s just being honest. We AREN’T as smart as we think we are. And rather than leave it at a humorous title, he walks us through all the different ways we trip over ourselves or fall short on our path to understanding. From cognitive biases, irrational thinking, and just plain human B.S. David intricately dissects universal issues that complicate the human experience. And he goes straight to the horses mouth by interviewing the very experts who often have coined the phrases or started the movements he discusses. All this because, as David says, “Being a person is incredible”.

David’s website houses all of his materials including two books, his podcast, and the hugely expansive supporting material. I highly recommend you spend some time there.

Preview clip here: https://business.facebook.com/kpluseiswise/videos/744288499589133/

Full Episode Friday.

Preview KEW Episode 30: Quality

Quality is one of those words we think we understand but I’m going to argue that we really don’t. Quality is about the inherent characteristics of an item or idea. But instead of assessing these characteristics we tend to describe quality in terms of how the item makes us feel or whether we like it or not.

I argue that our assessment of quality is often nothing more than our opinion. Which is fine, but it is important not to confuse terms. As much as I sometimes hate semantics, we have a diverse language and we should use it. Or maybe we shouldn’t? Maybe it’s fine to change the meaning of words to suit whatever we want? Tongue firmly in cheek.

Preview video link: https://business.facebook.com/kpluseiswise/videos/833131453916669/

Ful episodes friday.