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KEW Episode 111: Vulnerability is Your Superpower

By kpluseiswise | February 9, 2023February 5, 2023 by kpluseiswise

I have been thinking a lot about the popular images of aggressive male competitors. Silverback gorillas. Wrestlemania or UFC fighters. These popular ideas feature ‘Alpha males’ bullying and pushing around ‘weaker’ males in order to get mates, habitat, or food. These toxic stereotypes probably spill over into popular culture and contribute to the issues we have among genders today. My question is, how common are these ‘alpha males’? How ‘fit’ were these gender differences across…

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“Anger is a Message” FLASHBACK! KEW Episode 12: Fear

By kpluseiswise | April 4, 2022April 3, 2022 by kpluseiswise

Are you afraid of anything? Many people claim they are not. And I can understand why. It takes a lot of courage and vulnerability to admit we are afraid. For me, it was easy. Once I realized that many of my emotions are fueled by fear, it was obvious. But it isn’t obvious on the surface. Anger, especially, seems like, well, anger. We get mad. Furious. Heated. We turn red and get hot. Silly things…

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KEW Episode 87: What Are You Afraid Of?

By kpluseiswise | March 4, 2022 by kpluseiswise

If you don’t like this question, you aren’t alone. Not many people like talking about, much less admitting, what they are afraid of. But I have found, in my work and over a decade meeting with therapists and coaches, that fear is a HUGE motivator. It turns out that a lot of our behaviors and beliefs are rooted in fears. In the Internal Family Systems model, we talk about ‘parts’ of ourselves that are born…

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KEW Episode 28: Doubt

By kpluseiswise | November 6, 2020October 22, 2023 by kpluseiswise

Doubt is tricky. A little bit is a good things. Too many of us think we’re right all the time – and that simply can’t be true. A little bit of doubt is healthy and says, ‘hey, i may be wrong here’. Admitting you may be wrong, and doubting your ability to ‘know the truth’ is healthy. However, doubt can become a lifestyle. Take it from me. I used to fancy myself as a ‘Cartesian…

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KEW Preview Episode 25: I Suck At . . .

By kpluseiswise | October 14, 2020 by kpluseiswise

I suck at getting my needs met and balancing my relationships. I’m telling you this in hopes that you can relate and to be held accountable. In this episode I’ll revise my personal values and share my shortcomings with respect to achieving my life goals. Preview video link: https://www.facebook.com/watch/?v=639647503359190 Full Episode this Friday