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Trying to Predict the Future Is Like Living in the Matrix

Spoiler alert? We can’t and we don’t Do ever joke that we’re living in the Matrix?  Most of us have done this. It’s funny to think the world is so mechanical or programmed that we’re just victims of the program or the algorithm. I often refer to the movie when talking about the problems of the world. Sometimes it does seem like we’re living in a computer simulation. Or does it? How would we even know…

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What This Neurodivergent Dude Gained From Therapy

What is your experience with therapy? Have you tried it? Wanted to try it? Hesitant to try it? Overwhelmed? Did you have a bad experience? Recently I have noticed some neurodivergent people have had negative experiences with therapy. Here I want to clarify my own story about how both therapy and neurodivergence are helping me heal and become the person I want to be. Briefly, I have been in therapy, counseling, or coaching (I use…

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How Autism Blends With the World

Do you love yourself? I know, it’s an extremely personal question. When a counselor first asked me this question I was taken aback. It’s offensive and puts one in a defensive position. And who likes feeling defensive? But therapy is about healing and I answered as best I could. Again, and again. I’m fairly certain every counselor, therapist, and coach I have worked with has asked me some form of this question. I do love…

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The Purpose of Growth – Embracing Neurodiversity

The Purpose of Growth Embracing neurodiversity Have you ever felt like everyone understands the rules except for you? Me, too. And I’ve spent over a decade in therapy trying to figure it out. The main reason I sought help from therapists, counselors, and coaches is because I have always felt different. Like everyone else got the ‘Manual to Human Life’ except for me. As a result, I have always felt like an outsider. I think feeling…

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Is It Awesome to Be Autistic?

I ask this question as part of my journey to demonstrate that diversity is better than conformity.  The idea, briefly, is that Life facilitates variety or diversity, yet we humans seem to resist this. We are all different, yet we do everything in our power to reduce this variation by trying to force each other to be the same. This journey was influenced recently by my exploration of neurodiversity and Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD or…

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The Mind is a Splendid Thing

Have you ever thought about how complex our brains are? Or about how little we seem to really know about the way we think? Like, how can we simultaneously love our family but also they annoy us to no end?  I think this dissonance, this capacity to hold to two seemingly oppositional thoughts at the same time is just something we are able to do. What’s weird it that we try to not do this. When we have two…

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“The World Needs You To Become the Best ‘You’ Possible” KEW Episode 99: The Uniqueness Imperative

I kind of can’t believe the title of Episode 99, but this is the culmination of all the work so far including nearly 100 KEW Episodes and over 30 Interviews. Hopefully this body of work, thus far, has earned me a bit of credibility. Coupled with my PhD in Ecology and Evolutionary Biology, and over a decade in multiple modalities of therapy, counseling, and coaching, I think I have some room to ‘weigh in’ on…

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“Finding Your Purpose is the Ultimate in Non-Conformity” Preview KEW Episode 99: The Uniqueness Imperative

I am so exited to share these next few Episodes with you and to talk about the new direction at KEW. In this Episode I introduce the Uniqueness Paradox (UP). This is derived from my series arc about the Are vs Should Problem and why we feel this dissonance between who we are and who we feel like we are supposed to be. Based on my research, as well as the Are vs Should Interview…

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“Love Your Neighbor and Other Ways to Make Your Life Suck Less” FLASHBACK! KEW Episode 21: We All Feel Different (But We’re All The Same)

Do you ever feel like no one ‘gets you’? Have you ever felt like you didn’t belong? Like people just don’t understand where you’re coming from? I have talked to many therapists, coaches, counselors, and psychologists and they all claim that this is one of the most common problems reported to them. So I wonder, if we all feel different doesn’t that unite us? Can we not ‘get together’ about this ‘feeing different’ issue? If…

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It isn’t Capitalism, or Religion, or Politics. There’s Too Many People.

It’s a numbers game I can almost always explain an observation, conflict, dilemma, or issue, with the ‘too many people’ explanation. I have as many degrees in Ecology and Evolutionary Biology as one can get. I’m not bragging, just explaining my credentials for making the observation that the problems we face are because the Earth is too crowded. The concept of carrying capacity describes an idea that the availability of resources (food, space, shelter) are…

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