This week I chat with Kate Stark, parent and child advocate living in Sheffield, UK. She started off helping new parents learn to use baby carriers appropriately, and was so good she now coaches and teaches new parents all sorts of things. Turns out, her work and beliefs touch upon the Are vs Should Problem in new and enlightening ways. This was a fun, informative, and encouraging talk and you are going to enjoy it.…
The evidence I was looking for was there all along. Do you ever beat yourself up? Can you be your own worst enemy sometimes? Ever struggle with imposter syndrome? Feeling not good enough? Feeling like there’s something wrong with you. Well, I do those things, too. And during the decade of various therapies I have often been told that I’m ok. But I’ve never FELT like I’m ok. In fact, I have been downright angry…
If you are interested in therapy and coaching. Either for yourself, someone you love, or just because you think it’s cool. Gretchen Winterkorn is a wonderful person for you to meet, and you can check out her short video below. I am very lucky to see some cool people doing these KEW interviews, and I really enjoyed listening TO and talking WITH Gretchen. Relevant to the Are vs Should Problem, Gretchen and her family just…
I told Paul Gadola recently that he had climbed the mountain and returned to share his wisdom with us. In this two part interview series you’ll have a chance to see what I mean. From his background in teaching to his childhood thoughts about becoming a spiritual leader, Paul has a natural way of understanding how to help people. He has a gym to help people’s bodies: https://www.ironmountain.fitness He and his wife have a freshly-prepared…
It’s taken me over a decade of therapy and introspection to arrive at this Episode. I don’t know what took me so long, but ‘getting’ self-compassion has been a real struggle for me. In the past few weeks a few things have clicked. First, some Miriam-Webster informed verbiage: Self: ha. dare we even try to define that? Even with the help of the dictionary? Hell, why not (only relevant entries included): Phew. And, Compassion: And,…
If you think about any element in your life you can probably see an example of the Are vs Should Problem. Sometimes it looks like indecision or Analysis Paralysis (and see Episode 11: Analysis Paralysis). Other times it feels like frustration or anger. In my experience I feel like I am ‘of two minds’ where I hear two competing voices telling me to do entirely different things. What are the important elements in your life?…
The beginning of my investigation into the ‘Are vs. Should Problem’, or the struggle many of us experience between the person we ARE and the person we feel like we SHOULD BE. Have you ever experienced this? Most people I ask say, ‘doesn’t everyone?’. But I really don’t know. All I can say is that I, personally, often feel like I have a natural reaction to a given situation or decision that is intimately coupled…
Definition of authentic (Taken from Merriam-Webster) 1 a: worthy of acceptance or belief as conforming to or based on fact paints an authentic picture of our society b: conforming to an original so as to reproduce essential features an authentic reproduction of a colonial farmhouse c: made or done the same way as an original authentic Mexican fare 2: not false or imitation: REAL, ACTUALan authentic cockney accent 3: true to one’s own personality, spirit, or character is sincere and authentic with no pretensions 4 aof a church mode : ranging upward from the keynote— compare PLAGAL sense 1 b…
I’m not sure where I heard this phrase but I always thought it had a nice balance of being both funny and thought provoking. Like, many a truth comes out in jest. It sounds like I’m kidding, but this is a serious question. How do we ever ‘know’ anything? Go back to my very first Episode 1: Facts. This is part of what I was getting at. Humans just don’t have the capacity to know…
Doing these interviews has been so much fun, and meeting new people (especially during the pandemic) is very nourishing. Getting to meet Dan Faill was no exception. Dan is exuberant, funny, has a lot of wisdom to share, and isn’t afraid to be real about it. For years Dan’s directed Greek programs for colleges and you can tell he has a direct connection with young people (and he’s still pretty young himself). Serendipitously, Dan was…