Not really, but on Mondays I will start over at the beginning by releasing all the FLASHBACK! Episodes in order from Episode 1: Facts. As I do this, I hope to rewatch and revisit these Episodes and figure out how to update them as we move forward with the Are vs Should How-tos. As future KEW Episodes focus on things we can do to live calmer lives it will be fun to revisit the ideas…
Denying This Prevents Individual and Societal Growth Forgive me for being a strong proponent of evolution. But, do what you know, right? In all my studies. All the naval gazing. The psychedelic experimentation. The ‘college’. All the Knowledge I’ve gained. The Experiences I’ve had. And whatever Wisdom resulted from all that. The only thing I know to be true is that things change. All the rest of the stuff has some probability of not being…
Thank you for following along as we gear up for the ‘how-to’ section of the Are vs Should Problem. We spent over 30 Episodes outlining various elements within the Are vs Should Problem. Turns out this fairly universal issue has a lot going on inside. Because I let these Episodes unfold organically, I didn’t know what to expect. The same thing is happening as we transition from the ‘whats’ to the ‘how-tos’. In my experience…
If you follow Knowledge + Experience = Wisdom you will be familiar with IFS. If you are not familiar, Internal Family Systems (IFS) is a psychotherapy model used to heal past trauma. In IFS, we view ourselves as being comprised of ‘parts’ that resemble siblings in a big family. These parts have taken on roles over time that we continue to implement as they all serve some purpose in our internal ‘family’. The process of…
The evidence I was looking for was there all along. Do you ever beat yourself up? Can you be your own worst enemy sometimes? Ever struggle with imposter syndrome? Feeling not good enough? Feeling like there’s something wrong with you. Well, I do those things, too. And during the decade of various therapies I have often been told that I’m ok. But I’ve never FELT like I’m ok. In fact, I have been downright angry…
Do you have trouble sleeping? Do you get anxious sometimes? Is anger part of your normal reaction to unexpected things? Do tiny little things sometimes irritate the crap out of you? Most of us struggle to some degree and could use a bit more calm in our lives. And a lot of this discomfort is normal and unavoidable, but what if we could reduce it a bit? Wouldn’t that be nice? One of the main…
Besides winning the ‘coolest name’ award, Gretchen is a wonderful person and I’m lucky to have met her. This interview just made me feel good. And I’m fairly sure it was reciprocal. And I’m even more sure you are going to feel the same if you check it out. Gretchen lives on her flower farm with her partner and child, having left the 60-hour-workweeks of New York City for a simpler life. She is a…
Reposted: Depending on how you define ‘uncomfortable’, 100-200 million people worldwide can’t meet their basic needs. Folks are born into societies and cultures where they are doomed to fail. Millions of people on this planet will live their entire lives worried about dying, finding food, or having a safe place to sleep. These are enormously huge problems that I truly don’t understand. Nor do I understand how complicated the solutions are. But I do believe…
Are you an analytical person? Do you think science is a good way of answering questions? Do you also believe there are things science CAN’T answer? Do you struggle from a mix of pragmatic and spiritual beliefs? Do you consider yourself to be pretty smart? Do you have a strong distrust for the status quo? Have you ever felt like a non-conformist, whether by choice or just because? If you answered any of those questions…
As we figure out exactly what is happening at KEW, which is mostly coming up with workable strategies to help analytical, empathic, and intelligent folks live calmer and more relaxed lives, it’s necessary to state our assumptions and identifying elements. In any good scientific endeavor (and this ISN’T science, but I’m trying to take a standardized and similar APPROACH) it’s nice to state your assumptions up front. It tells the reader/listener/viewer/colleague where your head was…