Have you ever sat down and thought about your values? Values are important, motivating, and provide guidance. I’ve done a lot of values work in therapy and find it challenging. I value many things, but prioritizing the top five to ten is difficult and dynamic. One thing I have learned during…
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If I Resist Social Media, Do I Even Exist?
In 2010 I discontinued my use of all social media. I did so to avoid the pain of the he-said, she-said comments associated with my divorce, as part of my healing. It was extremely helpful and I did not miss social media in any way. In 2020 I waded back…
Homeostasis
Do you seek balance in your life, or do you go all-in on things you like? I used to think everyone wanted balance, and had a moderate approach to all things in order to maintain that balance across their varied interests. Given that there are only so many hours in…
What Are You Afraid Of?
If you don’t like this question, you aren’t alone. Not many people like talking about, much less admitting, what they are afraid of. But I have found, in my work and over a decade meeting with therapists and coaches, that fear is a HUGE motivator. It turns out that a…
Who Controls Your Mind?
You’re probably like, ‘mind control, what’s this guy talking about?’ Either he’s going to tell us how we need to get in our heads and understand what’s going on, or he’s going to talk about how the algorithm has us under its spell. This week I’m taking about the first…
Journaling as a Step Toward Accountability
Quick show of hands. Who among us has ever been told they should journal? Even though this is a ‘should’ statement, people who say ‘you should journal’ mean well. I’ll say it, and I mean well. But I’ll say it without using the word ‘should’. You will benefit from journaling….
How Do You Tell the Difference?
Do you ever ask yourself this question? I have asked myself this question for as long as I can remember. In fact, I use this argument as a way to justify complaining. It’s not a habit I am proud of and I’m working on changing it. But I often find…
Is This Life Sustainable?
From the dictionary: Sustainable 1: able to be used without being completely used up or destroyed sustainable energy resources; a sustainable water supply 2: involving methods that do not completely use up or destroy natural resources sustainable agriculture/farming/techniques 3: able to last or continue for a long time sustainable development/growth Have you ever noticed the hustlers around…
People Suck at Their Jobs
At the risk of sounding pessimistic or negative I am sharing my thoughts about a topic near and dear to me. More often than no, I believe people suck at their jobs. I don’t think this suckage is always intentional and I do not believe people WANT to suck at…