Are you afraid of anything? Many people claim they are not. And I can understand why. It takes a lot of courage and vulnerability to admit we are afraid. For me, it was easy. Once I realized that many of my emotions are fueled by fear, it was obvious. But it isn’t obvious on the surface. Anger, especially, seems like, well, anger. We get mad. Furious. Heated. We turn red and get hot. Silly things…
Most of us are not perfect. I certainly am not. In fact,lately I have been replaying several moments from my life where I behaved poorly. But when I do this nowadays, I don’t beat myself up. I have learned to find self-compassion for the person I used to be and to recognize I am no longer him. Integrity is the alignment of our values or beliefs with our actions or behavior. Even though I know…
Has anyone ever told you to ‘Walk the Talk?’ My dad used to say this to me in those moments of fatherly advice. Yeah, I hated it when he said it. When I was a teenager this phrase just made me angry at him for not understanding how hard my (easy and privileged) life was. As an adult this phrase continues to haunt me because now it makes sense. Walking the talk is about aligning…
How you choose is more important than the choice itself
Have you experienced trauma? Have you overcome adversity? Many, if not most, of us have not have perfect lives. Candice Smiley is like us. Though we don’t talk specifically about her past, you will be amazed to learn that this sophisticated, confident, and calm woman made it through her suffering. In fact, you will be impressed at her candor and her, well, knowledge, experience, and wisdom. We are lucky that Candice is healing and taking…
Improvising is Magic for your Life
Candice shares her unique, and hard earned, insight
Have you ever been to a big concert and had one of those ‘connected’ moments where you feel like everyone is having the same experience in the same moment? The energy is palpable and you almost levitate in place with the energy of the sounds, the heat, the FEELING. . . . I think most of us have had a moment like this. Of being part of the same thing. In the past few years…
You gotta give a little to get a little. . .
You know how they say you gotta give a little to get a little? Trade-offs are like that. In the biological world, organisms make trade-offs daily. Should I run out and grab that rabbit? If I get it I’ll eat, but I could also get eaten by a predator. Or, as it’s related to the Are vs Should Problem or personal growth in general, what scary stuff are you going to have to put up…