“Anger is a Message” FLASHBACK! KEW Episode 12: Fear

Are you afraid of anything? Many people claim they are not. And I can understand why.

It takes a lot of courage and vulnerability to admit we are afraid.

For me, it was easy. Once I realized that many of my emotions are fueled by fear, it was obvious.

But it isn’t obvious on the surface.

Anger, especially, seems like, well, anger. We get mad. Furious. Heated. We turn red and get hot.

Silly things can set us off and put us in this uncomfortable position where we feel like we want to punch things in the face.

It’s a sucky feeling and I’m 100% positive you understand exactly what I mean.

But I have learned that under most, if not all of MY anger, is fear. Anger is the mask that covers up the fear. Anger is the part we see and feel.

And I’m not sure why, but I assume it is beneficial either in an evolutionary (long term adaptation) sense or in a survival (momentary relief) sense.

Because fear often causes us to freeze. And freezing can mean getting eaten, hurt, or missing out on an opportunity.

Anger is active. We punch, run, or communicate to alleviate it. It’s more productive than fear.

But, at the end of the day, if we never deal with the fear it will always be there. And it increases our propensity for violence and acting out.

I didn’t intend to go here, but it’s like the Will Smith/Chris Rock situation. When I heard about that, I said to myself, ‘I wonder what Will Smith is so afraid of that made him so angry’.

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